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Columbia Student: I Didn’t Rape Her (thedailybeast.com)

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[–]shiftcommathree -31 ポイント-30 ポイント  (41子コメント)

I am barely a degree of separation from this woman (same general school system, same sport). Reading this just moved me to message her. To tell her I believe her. I also have had fairly amicable messages with my assailant after it happened. Hell, sometimes I like his shit on Facebook. Maybe it's pathetic, but I had a close relationship with him before he penetrated and came in me against my will. I still cared about him / felt intensely conflicted / miserable about whether he was a bad person or what.

I'm lucky (?! if you can call it that) in that he knows he violated me and straight-up told me when I asked that he knew I didn't want it and he could have stopped. So at least I don't have to be confused about what happened, which I wonder if she is now. Sometimes treating him like a normal human being helped. Sometimes I was furious when my friends suggested going to the same social spaces he belongs to. Sometimes, with really close friends, I have been 100% ok with and even encouraged their hooking up with him. Sometimes we still snapchat each other. It's weird. It doesn't make sense to outsiders. It was a complicated relationship and a complicated rape. So, I personally don't have any reason not to keep believing her.

[–]Siggers 43 ポイント44 ポイント  (30子コメント)

Sometimes, with really close friends, I have been 100% ok with and even encouraged their hooking up with him.

You encourage your friends to hook up with your rapist?

[–]laboursuck 26 ポイント27 ポイント  (0子コメント)

And that's fine, most people will now choose to not believe her. What really does it for me in these cases in the " victims " lack of concern for real justice. She's more concerened about her mattress than actually trying to prosecute him in the courts, very very strange behavior. Also the fact she thinks trying to kiss someone is rape, as if.

[–]DevilCL203 22 ポイント23 ポイント  (8子コメント)

You need to see a therapist. Someone raped you and you think it is okay now because he admits that he raped you? And you encourage friends to hit on and hook up with a person you know is okay with ignoring their decisions?

Do you not think about the fact that you are putting other people in serious danger? Or do you simply not care that other people could be seriously hurt? This is a really disturbing post and I say again, YOU NEED TO SEE A PROFESSIONAL. It seems like you are still going through some serious psychological issues from what happened to you and trying to pretend it is just all okay is not healthy. Please find a safe place where you can get some assistance, because this is going to get a lot worse if you don't start working on it.