i kno this is fuckign long but please at least skim it/read the bolded/italicized statments„„

• i have dependent personality disorder, and i start having panic attacks if  am left without some form of communicating with others for more than a few hours
• i also need a lot of attention. like, near constant
• i would appreciate it if you liked my posts if you read them, especially read mores or anything tagged #like if you read
• i always notice when i lose followers and it makes me really nervous, so please say off-anon why you are unfollwing me, especially if its only a temporary unfollow. i wont argue with you. i likely will not even reply aside from acknowledging i got the message unless its something like “im unfollowing you because you support this bad person” but i dont know why the person you are talking about is bad or something similar.if it is really too hard for you to ask off anon because of anxiety its ok to ask on anon but id prefer you to ask off anon
• i am prone to very intense mood swings that i usually have to talk to others to get out of before it gets out of hand
• even if you do not read my readmores, if you see a lot of posts being tagged #negative in a short period of time, please message me. it doesnt even have to be like “hey things will be ok!!” send me pictures of cats or just tell me a little story or fun fact. basically anything to distract me because when i have my mood swings my thoughts get irrational and i kind of need to be pulled back to a decent state of mind
• if i mention having to be away from tumblr for a long time it would be nice to attempt to give me some other form of contact with you, especially if were mutuals/talk a lot
• i have a lot of trouble initiating conversations because of social anxiety and will only do it once in a blue moon or w/e
• also even if you tell me 5000 times that i can talk to you when im upset i probably wont unless you talk to me first. 
• i probably wont talk to you first at all ever. there are like maybe 3 people i will initiate conversation with. i at least need some kind of flag (and by flag i mean outright saying it flat out) that you want to talk otherwise i will not talk first. 
• if i dont reply to a message feel free to bug me about it i forget sometimes, i dont hate you i promise!! it would actually be nice if you bug me about it bc if i dont reply to something in less than a day i usually feel like replying late would annoy the other person. 
• i also make a lot of posts asking for help making decisions. even if it seems stupid like “should i eat mac and cheese or ramen tonight” please try and give your input because i sometimes get panic attacks at making even tiny decisions on my own.
• id also like it if you just like. answer me when i ask a question. even if its not decision related like if i say “is anyone else doing this thing today” even if you arent it would be cool to answer bc it helps me feel like people arent just ignoring me
• dont make fun of my indecisiveness. i dont really mind if youre doing it when i do but id still rather you not even do that. 
• please dont take advantage of my kindness. people have actually done that before please dont do that p lease.
• also dont ignore me as a joke please. 
• i need frequent reassurance that i matter and that i am doing the right thing??? so if you could send me nice messages at random times or when i ask that would be really good. 
• i also have sdpd so if you try to give me advice, most the time i will kind of ignore it. this doesnt mean that you shouldnt give me advice, just please dont get mad if i make excuses for everything bc i probably will. 
• i will sometimes do things to attract negative attention. (whine about something small and insignificant, go to a user who has done bad shit but still has supporters and call them shitty, usually i try and refrain from doing something too offensive) please dont call me attention seeking if i do that thank you. 
• if i make a post like “send me anon hate” im probably being 100% serious but please. dont send me anon hate. i guess joking is ok but its preferred not at all. do not feed into this part of my personality please and thank you. 
• i have bpd and sometimes i will get very violent mood swings, especially if people aren’t listening to me. i will probably forget to tag during these violent episodes, on accident or on purpose depending on the severity of the episode. 
• please dont try and guilt me regarding these episodes. i know theyre bad and i try and control them and i feel really guilty about it as it is. i dont need a bunch of people making it worse. 
• i have did. all my system stuff is here. basically all of us in the system have dpd and bpd so a lot of these statements apply to all of us