What about the girlz!

The OP's comments about women not being able to understand a man's point of view is neatly illustrated in this top rated comment post. It's quite apparent that some women (many) just don't get it! She, like many other women, are just totally blind to the dilemma which now faces men.

The issue is not that a man who shows "too much interest" is a creep. The issue is that society is being bombarded by the message that virtually ALL men are creeps and that ALL (or virtually all) women are being victimized by men. We are literally being told that we men need to learn to not rape women. We are told that we need to learn to respect women. We are told that we need to reign in our compulsive urges because they are offensive to women. We men, apparently, are too brutish, stupid and ignorant to understand these things or to have learned them when we were children and; therefore, it must be hammered into our heads, over and over again.

As a man who has never raped, harassed, stalked, hit or abused a woman - I am deeply offended by these messages. I am deeply offended that the mere fact that I have a penis means that some among us think I need to be "educated" in the right way to treat a woman.

It is NOT the same thing as a woman being called a "slut" if she shows too much interest (which, personally, I have never observed). It is not the same thing as a woman being called a slut because she does sleep with a lot of men. It is not that we are judging men for their behavior (we have always done that) - the issue is that we are now prejudging men simply because they have a penis.

If I were a young single man, I too might feel the urge to turn my back on dating. I might just be content with the odd ONS and resolve myself to the suspicion that regardless of how hard I tried, I would never measure up to societies expectations because of what swung between my legs.