most mystical man of all russia

foreplay is a heteronormative, patriarchal concept

it is founded on the idea that any sexual contact other then a penis entering a vagina is not sex but something meant to lead up to it

the idea that doing anything to a vagina-owner other than pounding them with your dick is optional and not all that important

the idea that, if a woman does sexual things with you that don’t include your penis going into her, and she decides to not let you put your penis into her, she is a tease because that was all just foreplay, meant to lead up to the “feature event”

fore | play - the real “play” is a cis man inserting his penis in a cis woman - anything else is deviant, optional or not really sex

the concept of foreplay delegitimizes sex queer people have and the kinds of sexual contact studies show women enjoy most. it centers the cis heterosexual man’s pleasure over everyone else’s, reducing any other sexual contact to an unimportant optional side quest or deviant predilection. it even reaffirms rape culture, framing other sexual contact between men and women as but an “introduction” to the “inevitable” event of a penis entering a vagina—implying a priori consent.

the concept of foreplay directly benefits straight cis men to the detriment of everyone else.

EDIT: it’s come to my attention some people use the term foreplay differently, i.e. to get aroused for any sexual activity, HOWEVER this oppressive use of the term is still very common, so my criticism is still valid and important