No, it's definitely you. /u/TheOneDoc was bang on; you've taken a specific constellation, and have used it to support a narrative that calls out hypocrisy on the part of polyfi. What about polyfi with 5 people? What about people who identify as polyfi because they themselves are exclusive (by choice), and not because exclusivity is imposed on others in their relationship. That's just two obvious examples off the cuff. My guess is that you're not all too interested in what makes polyfi not mono, and just want people to know you think it's dumb.

A shame, really, because there is a valid point buried somewhere in your hamfist; what are the principles of polyamory? Is there just one set? Is it about loving multiple people, eliminating boundaries to love, dismantling patriarchy, or something else? Just one of these things, some but not others, or none of these? Polyfi definitely does conflict with the idea of 'infinite, unrestricted love', but that would only be hypocritical if they subscribed to it in the first place, (which they evidently do not). For polyfi folks, I guess, the 'poly' comes from 'many'- perhaps a more literal approach than mine or yours. The subsequent question would be whether or not polyfi ought to be considered poly in light of the fact that they stand against the general consensus that rules and enforced exclusivity is bad. To that, I'd say 'sure, why not?'; /r/polyamory (and subs like it) encompass a pretty nebulous community touching a lot of disparate elements and subcultures. The sub itself serves essentially as a common area for information, reflection, and support. I'm not sure what ousting polyfi from /r/polyamory would achieve; at this stage, at least, it's not a mission to propagate a particular constellation or relationship model. Even if it was, polyamory is still at the stage where more exposure and a bigger forum is better - Stalinist purges of internal enemies come wayyyyyy later.