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Upsides to being gay? (self.askgaybros)

Kjm94 が 投稿

We often hear a lot of rough stories in this sub, and surely there has to be a lot of positives to being gay as well! So I'm curious as to what have been your best/funniest gay related moments?

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[–]hwknight 147 ポイント148 ポイント  (13子コメント)

My boy friend is around my size so when we moved in together my wardrobe was doubled.

[–]Firmicutes 98 ポイント99 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Plus it has boyfriend-scent, which I love

[–]umpteenth_ 15 ポイント16 ポイント  (0子コメント)

God, instaboner.

[–]ahoym80z 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

i wish they could bottle that smell

[–]yoolanda 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

aww you are cute!

[–]Kjm94[S] 19 ポイント20 ポイント  (4子コメント)

How have I never realised this before?! Something to add to the dating profiles I think..

[–]hwknight 31 ポイント32 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Its one of the bet features of dating men. I may or may not have bought clothing to give to my bf with the expectation that I would get to wear it in a few months

[–]Kjm94[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Ah, the full circle gifting!

[–]Accam 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Downside of being into shorter guys :(

[–]zxrax 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Is 5'7" short enough?

[–]ThatBeardedCarGuy 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'd be okay with this. My style sucks, so if I date someone around my size with some fashion sense, I'd be golden.

[–]redditorexplorer 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

There's nothing cuter than when my gay roommate's bf picks himself out an outfit from his closet

[–]Intel2407 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

My boyfriend is a foot taller than I am. My wardrobe also doubled (mostly - I can't wear his jeans or shirts, but I can wear his tshirts, hoodies and pyjamas. You know, all the comfy clothes!

[–]shanthology 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

The one thing I miss about my ex -_-

[–]jaycatt7 126 ポイント127 ポイント  (6子コメント)

I think I'm a more compassionate person than I would have been if I'd ended up straight. Many things in the world are broken, and that's a lot easier to see when a few of those things are pointed at you.

[–]NorCalPride 56 ポイント57 ポイント  (1子コメント)

100% agreed. I'm convinced that if I were straight I would be extremely republican in regards to social issues. I was raised in an upper middle class white neigborhood and went to Christian schools up until college. I was naive to anything outside my little bubble. Being gay has made it way easier to relate and understand the struggles of the less fortunate and other minorities.

[–]Varsyr 16 ポイント17 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yep. Was raised in an extremely conservative house, and I'm pretty sure I'd still be carrying that baggage around if I wasn't gay.

[–]yolohomobro 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I often cite this as one of the reasons I'm glad to be gay. I see my straight friends not giving a damn about other people, especially when it comes to social injustice, racial inequality, and civil rights. Not that they are actively against others (though some republican friends are), they mostly just don't care because it doesn't affect them.

I seem to be more vocal about these social issues because I know what it's like to be a second class citizen, and I am passionate about fighting for equality, not just among LGBT but everyone.

[–]jaycatt7 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yes... I do want to complicate what I said a little bit though. There are no guarantees: there are a vocal group of gay Republicans, grindr and such have been full of racist preferences since they were ink on newsprint, so many straight people are just awesome... but I can't deny that I was a sanctimonious little shit before I came out. Of course I was also young. Maybe I would have turned around anyway. And maybe I wouldn't have been hitting the Jesus sauce so hard if I hadn't been trying so hard not to be gay in the first place.

[–]yolohomobro 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

There are gonna be douchebags everywhere, even within the LGBT community. I do know I became more aware of inequality and injustice after the marriage equality movement started and I saw how people were voting to ban gay marriage, and how indifferent others felt. I have straight friends that support gay marriage and wanted to see my ex at the time and I get married, yet they won't mention their support in Facebook, and worse, they'll eventually vote for the republican candidate who flat out said he is against gay marriage.

That's when I took notice. They can be in favor of something but it's not important to them and they'll vote for a candidate who's against it if it means they'll get something else out of it.

And through that process of seeing just how little people care about my rights, I began to see how little people care about other people's rights too.

It seems the republicans lately have been super vocal about everything too. The more vocal they have been, about how black kids deserve to get shot, about how minimum wage workers don't deserve a raise (as they themselves complain about how they need a raise), about how Mexicans don't deserve to get health insurance and the inconvenience that would cause because the Mexicans will be able to see the same doctors that they see. And the more vocal they are about this stuff, the more vocal I have been about the other side of the coin too.

And I'm pretty sure I wouldn't feel this way if I didn't experience being oppressed myself.

[–]freddietheteddy 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

could not agree more!

[–]jumbleton 112 ポイント113 ポイント  (2子コメント)

No unplanned pregnancies.

[–]youarejustanasshole 12 ポイント13 ポイント  (0子コメント)

True but we still have a lot of unplanned endings to sexual encounters just the same

[–]infiniteboredom 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I always tell my boyfriend that we don't have to worry about being pregnant. And if we do get pregnant, we're going to be FUCKING RICH!

[–]canyoufeelme 62 ポイント63 ポイント  (2子コメント)

"gender wars" drama, fuck that noise!

[–]fluffhoof 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

But Urbance looks pretty cool tho!

[–]Beamazedbyme -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

We don't have to constantly reassure consent to avoid rape charges

[–]controltop 125 ポイント126 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It makes it way easier to have sex with guys.

[–]tuttutter 38 ポイント39 ポイント  (3子コメント)

You get to fuck your best friend.

[–]jinkazetsukai 41 ポイント42 ポイント  (0子コメント)

And then play call of duty after callin for that booty

[–]Kjm94[S] 16 ポイント17 ポイント  (1子コメント)

But my best friend is a girl?! Does being gay turn me straight again?

[–]memyselfandmemories 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, Didn't you read the pamphlet?

[–]__Miguel_ 83 ポイント84 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Personally, I've always felt that one good thing about being gay is the soul searching most of us have to go through.

Seriously, there are A LOT of straight people that go through life without 1/1000th of the soul searching and deep analysis that most gay people go through, and that hinders their ability to relate to other people, when it comes to pain, loss, and hardship.

Not saying it's every straight people, but I've seen many clueless ones that just can't grasp that kind of concepts. Having to come to terms with something so radically different than the norm, which most straight people don't have to do, and successfully get to the other side, changes you for the better.

As for funny episodes, it has to be the one where I was in a car with a female friend, her boyfriend, and one of her female friends, waiting for the sign to turn green. The boyfriend points out (to everyone) "hey, look at that guy. Isn't he good-looking?". Both girls go with a variation of "oh, sure, he's cute".

The guy was not "cute", he was HOT. And quite, at that. So I say something along the lines of "Cute? Oh, you wouldn't know what I'd do with him!". Everyone laughs, and I had to ask "What? I'm just stating what everyone else is thinking about. Or am I wrong?". Everyone laughed again... hehe

[–]chuckchai 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I couldn't agree more, I for instance have developed a militance for the LGBT community, and have immersed myself in a lot more topics about the sexual and gender spectrum, I've grown a compassion and more importantly, huge respect for trans, gender fluids and intersexual people, because yes, being gay is hard at times but these people encounter a hardship that I will never have to endure.

About the funny episodes those kind of things happen ALL the time, I'm very open and a little forward when it comes to me being gay, a recurrent line that I say to my attractive female friends is "Dayum, if I weren't so gay I'd definitely hit that!".

[–]Upgoats4Unidan 52 ポイント53 ポイント  (1子コメント)

A few decades years from now, your straight friends will be living with menopausal women.

[–]finkfault 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

And we will be in our husband's mid-life-crisis red sports car!

[–]thydevourer666 24 ポイント25 ポイント  (1子コメント)

every girl you meet doesn't automatically think you want to fuck them, so you can actually have a normal conversation with females for once.

also penis

[–]greymutt 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

you can actually have a normal conversation

Yes, with their actual faces. Girls appreciate that.

[–]nocoolredditname 21 ポイント22 ポイント  (0子コメント)

All men have a prostate, most of them never get to really experience the joy of it.

[–]AbsentEmpire 20 ポイント21 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I feel that the whole process of coming out from self acceptance to telling people made me a stronger person. I feel way more confident in myself then my straight peers. I also feel like it makes me take trivial things that work people up not seriously at all. Because after you go through the process of telling your dad you like cock, you just have to laugh at bs problems.

[–]Laika_Come_Home 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I wish I had half your bravery.

[–]John2Nhoj 39 ポイント40 ポイント  (3子コメント)

No children. I don't hate them, I just don't want any.

[–]wellitsbouttime 17 ポイント18 ポイント  (1子コメント)

they're like super high maintenance puppies. I want someone to have them, just not me.

[–]John2Nhoj 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah. I have 6 nephews and three godsons, who I love to death, are a lot of fun for a few hours and then it's time for me to go home :-)

[–]Eveenus 17 ポイント18 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Jeez how could everyone forget the best part

Motherfucking brunch

[–]infiniteboredom 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Breakfast with booze. How does life get ANY better?

[–]VWGuy81 29 ポイント30 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It made me a stronger person. I came out young when it wasn't as accepted as it is now so I had to find my own voice early on. It's made me a more compassionate and empathetic person. But it also made me more political at a young age. I've had to work harder for the things I want and because of that I feel more fulfilled.

[–]ogreblood 42 ポイント43 ポイント  (2子コメント)

We definitely throw better parties.

[–]Kjm94[S] 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I can't wait to attend a gay wedding. God damn that'll be fabulous

[–]zakii 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Attend? Aim for the stars man- get excited for your own! If you're having one I mean.

[–]esperandopara 22 ポイント23 ポイント  (1子コメント)

One of the coolest perks is being able to more easily empathize with both men and women. We relate to men because we are men, but we experience attraction like straight women, and society treats us like them sometimes, so our perspective can be kind of a bridge between the sexes.

[–]AspiringStoic 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I've heard this is kind of an evolutionary advantage that gave early human tribes with gay individuals an edge. Don't know where to find the source though.

[–]mkr 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (2子コメント)

A vote in the agenda convention.

[–]jaycatt7 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Not to mention... I've got a closet of free toasters.

[–]Pseudonymical 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I've just got a free closet after I moved out of it.

[–]Raudskeggr 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

When you make inappropriate jokes, people are less likely to be offended. lol.

[–]hornycuriousM 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (4子コメント)

You get to suck lots of cock, and enjoy it!;)

[–]esperandopara 17 ポイント18 ポイント  (1子コメント)

You know what they say, if God hadn't wanted men to be gay, he wouldn't have made cock so delicious.

[–]alone_yet_strong 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Sassy af lol

[–]eneka 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Dick is so good. They dont know what they're missing out on ;)

[–]TylerBFree 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (2子コメント)

No massive hair clogs in the shower drain. No dealing with PMS. (Usually) more shared common interests.

[–]macro-cosmos 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (1子コメント)

speak for yourself about the first one. i've got long curly hair and it's awful :-(

[–]JohnnyCakess1992X 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Where?

[–]Those_Who_Remain 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (0子コメント)

No one is surprised for me being a more feminine male. Straight men are judged more harshly on traditional gender roles.

[–]Kjm94[S] 20 ポイント21 ポイント  (0子コメント)

For me it's gotta be the acceptance of everyone and anything. I'm phased by nothing, especially having accepted my own sexuality! My friend found out when she stumbled across a picture of Austin Wolf (total sex God) with his ass spread wide open that I must have accidently downloaded! There was no explaining that, so I just said "Oops", to which she replied "Youre gonna need to send me some of these" before laughing and saying she didn't give a crap. And that's how I became fully happy in myself and others haha!

[–]raosion 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

We get an object lesson being the odd man/woman out during our formative years. That is an important lesson right there.

Also the sex is pretty stellar.

[–]boredboi 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

this is weird, but part of my job with a nonprofit/law enforcement work was looking at female escorts/ potential underage ones and gathering a lot of data. Being gay helped me do that or else I would not have been able to look at all of that w/o going crazy.

[–]BuckTheFuckNaked 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm a lot stronger due to having to face an unpopular sexuality and own it. I used to be the guy afraid of talking on the phone when I was a young teenager. After I came out at 17, I suddenly was able to make friends and even speak in public.

[–]tortilla4masclol 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Getting tough skin early on. Sure helps putting lots of otherwise mundane day to day problems in perspective when you had to go through so many things while growing up!

[–]bermuda74 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

For me, it would be the freedom to do things that would be considered feminine while still being able to do things that are considered masculine. Being a gay man, I'm able to go to the gym in the morning and play sports in the afternoon while also going to the broadway show in the evening to later go to the drag show at the gay bar at night. We don't have to worry about this "manly man" straight culture that tells us that what we are doing is gay, because we are already gay.

[–]y_halo_thar 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

For me one of the biggest upside of being gay is that it helped me realize early in my life that I didn't have to conform to any norm if I didn't want to. I had to accept that I wasn't part of the sexuality norm. I guess it forced me to build my own identity in a more conscious way about everything else too.

When I look at people around me I see that people often do things because it's the usual thing to do, and they don't really think of alternatives. Being gay helped me question everything and make better choices for myself. And as other said it also helped me understand and accept other people's choices better.

[–]eridax700 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I definitely feel I have significantly more insight into how people think- I can empathize very strongly with both women and men and am able to see both sides of the coin on a lot of the emotional issues that come up between them. Also, I realize being gay has likely made me significantly more observant socially.

[–]Rawksawlid 13 ポイント14 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Gay bars have some extra strong drinks! :D w000000ts to that.

[–]Kjm94[S] 15 ポイント16 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think you may have been drugged

[–]arcticsky2009 14 ポイント15 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Ass! Ass! Ass! Ass! Ass!

not to mention....

Cock!

[–]picklesitter 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Found the top.

[–]DHGG86 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'm surprised no one has mentioned art and culture yet. I think gays tend to be naturally inclined towards the arts (music, performing art, visual arts, fashion, literature, etc.)

Also... among gays, things are drastically more equal (someone already mentioned the lack of gender stereotypes).

[–]aussieholler 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't think is entirely true. I do biology and know a lot of LGBT people in my field, along with many others in other parts of the science spectrum.

I think it just depends on where you are really, or perhaps the degree, the job you have. You're bound to find many people in all career types and saying that gays are inclined towards the arts is a generalisation.

By no means do I intend to say that being a gay man in the arts is a bad thing or makes you less of a man, I'm just saying we fill a wider spectrum of careers than just fashion, performing arts etc.

[–]shaundon 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Unfortunately I don't have a source for this, but I read somewhere that in response to a similar question, George Takei said "well, the food is better for one thing". :)

[–]sportsguysd7 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You can wake up on Sunday, have sex, then watch football all day and not be in trouble.

[–]littlemonster1618 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Really? My boy and I were just talking about how being gay is more of an advantage than a disadvantage.

[–]pizzaforce3 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Liberation from the norms we are taught from childhood.

I know a lot of straight people who never, ever questioned what they were taught as children in any deep or meaningful way, because they never needed to.

My life is richer, more varied and deeper in meaning because the process of coming out required me to question my own innermost motivations and beliefs.

My life journey has been picaresque, to say the least, and I owe that to being gay. I would otherwise be a pretty staid individual.

[–]edgwardoe 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I LOVE the fact that I'm gay, and am very proud of it. Any straight guy who says that sounds like a dick.

[–]AvatarJack 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Going through hell as a teenager made me a better, more confident person. I'm completely comfortable with myself and I'm not constantly drifting through an identity crisis like a lot of other people my age.

I can like Lady Gaga and rock crawling at the same time without having to feel self conscious.

Women have no power over me, except my mom and most guys never try to use their sex appeal to manipulate me. This also makes it really easy to have friendships with girls, they don't have to worry about me trying to get into their pants so they're way easier to talk to.

[–]dvffvd 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (1子コメント)

better communicative skills with men. Knowing how to talk to guys (straight as well) means you'll have an easier time creating a network of people, in terms of both business and social circle.

[–]coloradolorax 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Interesting point, I have trouble talking to all men. I'm much better at talking to women.

[–]ThatBeardedCarGuy 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't ever have to worry about knocking up some chick. No child support baby!

[–]shivadance 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (7子コメント)

He's "creative" is a euphemism for being gay.

How cool is that?!

[–]umpteenth_ 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (6子コメント)

But what of us gays that have no creative bones in our bodies?

[–]macro-cosmos 17 ポイント18 ポイント  (3子コメント)

i guess you just have to find a creative guy and put one of his bones in you :-P

[–]umpteenth_ 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I don't need one of his bones, I need his bone.

[–]macro-cosmos 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

i was trying to make a pun but it sorta slipped away :-\

[–]fordandfriends 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I got it

[–]shivadance 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (1子コメント)

It doesn't matter. You get to coast on the perception ("He must be right when he says the orange drapes will go with the purple walls, after all he's gay!")

[–]Computerme 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hey, they will during October because Halloween, so you're at least 1/12 right

[–]jinkazetsukai 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

You get snuggly with your heterbros

[–]zxrax 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

But I don't though :(

[–]Back2Bach 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I love being gay -- can't imagine life any other way!

I feel blessed to be surrounded with top quality gay friends who add warmth, humor, compassion daily. It's a feeling of total support.

So, here's something positive to share, per your request: My gay friends have become my family, just as I am to them. Yes, there are ups and downs, but we're there for one another. Group hug!

[–]Diabeato 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

We can efriend anyone. Girls love gay guys and guys love a wingman

[–]Y6Y1Y9[🍰] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

The only real positive difference to me is not having to worry about pregnancy. Everything else is kind of equal, just different. Not counting negatives.

[–]cptcringey 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Pretty late to the party, but everyone pretty much sums it all well.

Personally, I have more tendency to ignore stereotypes which kinda rebellious in a good way. Oh, and how I'm able to convince straight guys that men can open up about feelings too ya know.

[–]lizardking93 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's fine to be a short guy and we can't get accidentally pregnant.

[–]CinnamonLover79 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't have to confine myself to gender roles. I can wear a hot pink shirt while working on my car, and it's ok.

[–]Williamsburg41 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You don't have to deal with girls when you don't want to!

[–]omnichronos -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

The sex. How many regular, straight guys have had over 300 sexual partners, like me?

[–]GingerFrex -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

It's assumed/understood that the sex is inherently awkward. And that's just swell.

[–]esperandopara 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Speak for yourself...

[–]GingerFrex 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hahaha I honestly didn't expect the down votes. Maybe I am the only one. I mean, recently, guy attempts to throw me on the bed. Pretty much miss the bed entirely, fall flat on my ass. Laugh it off, do the sex, happy ending. Would do it all over again.