One Step at a Time.

Hi everyone! I’m faith and I’m one of the new mods here at SCaR. I’m 22, Chican@ (with white passing privilege), pansexual and genderfluid. My pronouns are bun/bunself or she/her. I have a bachelor’s in psychology and in September I’ll be starting school to get my master’s in counseling. I hope to get licensed as a Marriage and Family Therapist and work with survivors like you. And me.

I am a survivor of intimate partner violence. From the age of 14 to 18 I was in an emotionally, physically and sexually abusive relationship with a boy I went to high school with. The relationship ended shortly after I began college. During my time with Him, I was subject to rape and assault on a regular basis. He also cheated on me with anyone he could, though as far as I know, I was the only one he abused. A few “friends” knew what was happening, but didn’t seem to care. I think they believed that it wasn’t that bad, that he wasn’t brutal enough with me for it to count. (UGH) Either way, they’re out of my life now and I have new friends who support me and validate my experiences.

I have been in treatment for the PTSD for the past few years, along with depression, anxiety and possibly borderline personality disorder (never officially diagnosed). I have done inpatient hospitalization, partial hospitalization, intensive outpatient (IOP), individual therapy, and EMDR for a day (It was hard for me). I have experience with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectic Behavioral Therapy (DBT).

I still haven’t “recovered”, whatever that means, but I am doing a lot better. I understand how scary things can be during and after abuse. I really want each and every one of you to know that I am here for you, that SCaR is here for you. I’m happy to help in any way I can. I’m honored to be a part of this amazing blog and am looking forward to talk to you and hopefully, help you feel a little better.

Try to do something nice for yourself today.

Wishing you the very best,

faith.