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the overwhelming number of anti-kink/kinshamers who most DEFINITELY lie about sexual/abuse in order to attempt to police what consenting couples can do is disgusting

the overhelming number of anit-kink/kinkshamers who will pretend, or silence actual abused, sexually abused…

how about you explain how you came to the conclusion that anyones sex life is the business of people aside from those in the sex life??

if you HONESTLY dont believe well over half these 14-18 year old sjws aren’t lying about abuse in order to gain brownie oppression points, youre fucking blind.

1. that’s funny, because kinksters sure love making EVERYONE know about their gross kinks without them asking. believe me, i have no desire to know that they’ve fetishized my abuse. i didn’t ask for it to be “my business.” yo, people can have whatever kinks they want, i’m allowed to a) have an opinion on them and b) not want to hear about them or watch them silence any victim who speaks out against it by using other victims who support it to validate their behavior.

2. oh, but wait, i’m probably lying about my abuse, right?? and that’s why i wrote about it in detail last month without relating it to kinks at all??

3. if it’s nobody’s business what people do in their bedrooms, then it’s nobody’s place to determine whether or not someone is lying about abuse. fuck off with that attitude, you are fueling rape culture. 1 in 4 women are survivors, even more have had experiences that weren’t totally consensual whether or not they consider it rape. given those statistics, it’s highly unlikely that many are making it up. and “brownie oppression points” are you kidding me? you just sound like a creepy rape apologist.

4. when will kinksters just fucking accept that if they constantly bring up their kinks that offend people, they’re going to get a negative reaction? victims of sexual abuse don’t have to sit silently if we hear/read about your goddamn sex lives that trigger us. so many of you fucking LOVE survivors when you can use them as puppets, but you throw us under the bus when we voice our opinions and that isn’t fucking fair at all.

my initial response wasn’t about judging people’s sex lives, although yeah, i do have an issue with many kinks - it was about your gross attitude towards victims that echoes the views of many kinksters on this website.

1) because making a post means making everyone now, right. of course.

2) because i’d know that? making a detailed post doesnt mean shit anyways. ic ould easily sit here and make a huge post in detail about my dog biting me or some shit, doesn’t mean its true.

3. rape culture isn’t even real so idk why youre going off about it. you’ve made it pretty clear you havent really looked into any true statistics and information anyways, and regardless of what you probably think, throwing around “rape apologist” means nothing.

4. theres a huge fucking difference from “tag your bdsm” and using tumblr savior (acceptable and what should happen) and “stop your kinks doxx this person kill his children” which happened all because a daddy dom dared to call a fucking pair of shorts cute.

the fact youre wasting your time on me and not greasy bored kids who lie about abuse to start fights with things their prejudice against says a lot, lol.

1. do you really think kinksters only make posts about it? nah, they talk about it in real life too. and sorry - but it being “private” doesn’t mean everyone has to consider it harmless.

2. i never implied that you’d know about it without me telling you, i meant you already seem to doubt victims, which you did with me by saying i “could be making it up,” so fuck off. it’s hypocritical to act as if nobody should be judged for their sex lives but pass judgment on victims by saying they could be making it up.

3. not even going to entertain your claim that rape culture isn’t real because it’s too ridiculous. yes, i’ve looked at the statistics, and false rape claims are a very small fraction of reported rapes, not to mention that there are many, many instances of rape that go unreported - and people like you who don’t believe victims are one of the reasons why.

4. a lot of people don’t tag bdsm posts, and i never condoned doxxing or making threats. i never said that people who have my opinions on kinks never did anything wrong. and how am i supposed to waste my time on “greasy bored kids who lie about abuse” when i’m not a heartless person like you who assumes they know who is and who isn’t lying about their abuse?

i see that, regardless, i have been wasting my time with you because you’re so stuck in your defending of kinks and gross disbelief of victims who don’t support that culture. i don’t care if i wasted my time, though. have a good day.