Kate Fagan: Why I Feel Bad About My Last Hope Solo Column

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By Kate Fagan | Sep 23, 2014
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The Numbers Never Lie duo discuss the recent domestic violence incidents in professional sports, and the double standard that may be set forth for Hope Solo.
On Friday, I wrote this column: Why Hope Solo should be suspended -- Immediately.
Almost since the moment it went live, I've felt uneasy. Not about whether Hope Solo should be suspended from playing for the women's national team right away. She shouldn't be on the field, period. I stand by that opinion.
Solo is facing domestic assault charges stemming from a late-night incident on June 21 involving her 17-year-old nephew and her half-sister (the boy's mother). I believe U.S. Soccer should bench Solo immediately, until she resolves her legal issues (her trial begins in November). U.S. Soccer doesn't need to cut her from the team; just put her on a leave of absence until she is either convicted or cleared of charges. That's a standard option exercised by many employers when employees face similar situations. Definitely do not start her or continue honoring her for her on-field accomplishments.
And yet I still feel uncomfortable. Why?
Because I've seen too many people take my column to mean that it's OK to equate Hope Solo with Ray Rice. That takeaway isn't just false, it's potentially dangerous. I feel like my column allowed too many people to reach a quick and easy resolution to a problem that is incredibly complex. (See? Women commit domestic violence, too, so let's just call it even and get back to watching some football!)
We are in the middle of a massive course correction within sports -- within American culture -- in which off-field incidents of intimate partner violence and child abuse, once all but ignored, are finally being addressed. We are, at long last, having a conversation that we should have had all along. A few months ago, the outcry over off-field violence by athletes was virtually nonexistent -- in fact, it was deafeningly silent -- and into that space came the incendiary Ray Rice video. Everything promptly exploded.
And here's another point I'd like to highlight: I think Solo should be suspended right now, so we don't spend another minute talking about her.
Because what's concerning about the dialogue around Hope Solo is this: It's diverting us from the core issue. It feels like a distraction tactic to take the pressure off male athletes, off men in general, off the social epidemic of domestic violence.
Let me put it more simply. Discussing Hope Solo is a red herring. The storyline seems to exist as a coda -- the false reason, the false example -- of why nothing should change. Every minute we spend talking about Solo is a minute we could have spent addressing one of the real problems: the institutional sexism that allows hypermasculine cultures like the NFL (and college football) to become almost untouchable, to believe they can (and should) police themselves. 
For the past 10 days, the national media has discussed domestic violence more than at any other time in history. And for good reason, as the NFL's failure to take domestic violence seriously isn't an isolated reality. When a reported 56 players have been arrested for domestic violence on commissioner Roger Goodell's watch, and nearly 85 percent of domestic violence victims every year in America are women, the NFL is merely a reflection of the rest of society, in which most cases of domestic violence will go unreported and under-punished.
So exactly what does Hope Solo's story represent? What epidemic does she embody that needs addressing in the rest of our culture -- sports or otherwise?
Does U.S. Soccer have a history of domestic violence allegations? (No.) Do female athletes have a high rate of off-the-field incidents? (No.) Do we cover in the media and financially reward female athletes in a way that justifies this equivalent measure of scrutiny? (No.) Does Hope Solo need to be held accountable for her own conduct and domestic violence allegations? (Yes.)
The reason the "NFL and Domestic Violence" story is so important is because it's holding up a mirror to the rest of society. We can get somewhere better by examining the NFL's failures.
Every minute we spend talking about Hope Solo is a minute spent walking down a dead end.
Not at all where we need to go.
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    • Sean Conley
      Terrible column. The issue is not about domestic violence, or even violence in general. If you think that it is - you are missing the bigger picture.

      High level sports teams/programs such as Penn State, US Soccer, NFL, MLB, NBA, WNBA, place a higher priority on winning than they do on personal accountability. The conversation we are having now is not about domestic violence, it is about finding that line where teams/leagues/companies are willing to stand and say "this conduct is not acceptable."

      It also should not be about a witch hunt - mob justice is rarely good for anyone, nor does it speak well of a society where mob justice is pursued.

      As for this column - Hope Solo is a talented athlete who frequently acts beyond the scope of acceptable adult behavior. Excluding her from the discussion simply because she is a woman only serves to drive home the point that personal accountability only matters when it fits "your" agenda - whatever that agenda may be. That is the exact same philosophy the NFL pursued when it ignored domestic violence in the past - it was not part of their agenda, so it could be swept under the rug. You are making the same excuse here for Solo.

      The conversation we should be having is about personal accountability, and we all belong in that conversation, regardless of age, sex, race, etc.
      • Ken Howk · Hope College
        Somewhere in Solo's story is a man not doing what he is suppose to do or doing something he shouldn't... When you deny that men are the problem you are part of the problem...
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        · 4 · September 22 at 7:58pm
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      • Shontonio West · Top Commenter · Georgia Tech
        Ken Howk Hope Solo is an adult. She's responsible for herself. This isn't the 1950's or before. Men don't control women.
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        · 68 · September 22 at 8:00pm
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      • Donte Banks · Top Commenter · Works at Freelance Photographer
        thank you someone who see the big picture
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        · 5 · September 22 at 9:11pm
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    • Amado Jose · Detroit, Michigan
      "I am going to blast the NFL for ignoring a domestic violence case based on the perp's gender, and suggest we ignore a domestic violence case based on the perp's gender."

      For your next column, please tell us how female teachers having sex with underage students is a boy's dream and thus needs no debate or conversation. The real problem are those pervert male teachers who have sex with underage girls.
      • Harry Anthony Young · Top Commenter
        I had the same thought. "Don't compare her to Rice, because she's a woman. Lets keep the double standard, but then argue for equality". Durrrrrrrrr
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        · 59 · Yesterday at 7:14am
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      • Erkan Polat · McLean, Virginia
        Exactly. In this day and age we need to start accepting the fact that these issues all bleed into one another and often result in cycles of perpetuation. Hope beats her 17 yr old nephew, who goes on to beat his wife one day in front of his daughter who learns to unduly fear men, then the daughter goes to college and becomes a victim of rape because she went to a party and didn't have the courage to say no to 6th cup of booze being thrust in her face by a football player....and the story can go on and on.

        If we don't use these opportunities to address these topics wholly and holistically we will not make any progress.
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        · 12 · Yesterday at 8:07am
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    • Joseph Audette · Top Commenter · Works at Small Wonders Children's Consignment
      She only assaulted 2 people... not a big deal. And one of them was a minor... yeah really no big deal cuz she is a woman
       
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    • Mick Stewart · Top Commenter · UC Berkeley
      Terrible and childish article. When reality doesn't fit into your super thin media narrative you implore people to move on. Domestic violence isn't only important when it furthers your cause. What about the victims? This happened months ago but is important now because a male football player committed domestic violence? Where was the outrage when it happened?
      • Marisa Goon Briggs · Milton, Washington
        I had outrage. I was disgusted. Lots of us were locally. Now it has hit the national stage. Don't pretend this came out of thin air.
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        · 5 · September 22 at 10:06pm
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      • Brendan Vogel · Karts, Golf, Boats at Infield
        Marisa Goon Briggs You just said it hit you all LOCALLY... For the rest of the nation it was a side story for a while and quickly dissipated.
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        · 3 · September 22 at 10:11pm
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      • Marisa Goon Briggs · Milton, Washington
        Yes, and now with the National DV attention, and her being on the national team, the story has grown. It wasn't a story before because no one outside the NW gives 2 shits that a local female star got drunk and made a mistake. Now she is back on the national stage and the other celebrity DV cases have brought attention to it. The story grew as circumstances changed. USA soccer thought it was all nicely swept under a rug....it's not.
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        · 3 · Yesterday at 6:33am
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    • Luke Dane Huffman · United States Marine Corps
      wow, awesome cop out. you should be a politician.
         
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