When black people in the 60's and 70's started talking about "hating white people".. their message was lost. When Feminists loudly decried that they "hated men" they too lost their message.

You just can't. You can't give 'them' the ammunition. And when you sit there and say 'I hate cis people" you hand the haters a whole crate full.

We're allowed to hate our haters. But we shouldn't paint with a broad brush.. particularly when everyone is so quick to attack any sign of indiscretion.

Yes.. you're entitled to be upset at mistreatment at the hands of cis people, yes, you're entitled to be upset. You're actually even entitled TO be upset at every single cisgender person who ever lived. But you're probably going to be rebuked for posting that position in public.

When you say "cis people" you're in effect saying "every cis person ever", and you're playing into the game that the haters are just itching for you to play.

It's frustrating, but we need to guard our word choices... yes, even when we're hurting and angry. And when we're the most pissed off, is probably when we should avoid even bringing the word 'cis' into the discussion.

Imagine how less loaded the comment would have been, had it just been "I really hate people today".

Is it fair? Yes and no. If a cis person had just been on a date and found out their love interest was transgender.. and they expressed their shock, repulsion, whatever using phrases like "I hate trans people".. Or if they got hit on by a gay guy and they were straight, and they said "I hate gays"... in an ideal world, people would pick that person's words apart too.

Sadly, we don't live in an ideal world, and the majority of voices are still bigoted, ignorant, or indifferent to the underdogs.

But we do live in a world that is changing. Where an owner of an NBA basketball team can have his ownership wrested from him, and the team sold out from under him, because he used racial epithets... in what he thought was privacy.

Whether that's a good or bad development in terms of privacy rights is another discussion.. but the world has changed to the point where people will stand up against someone who talks like that... so long as their opinion is a minority one. (Overt White-v-Black racism has become a minority position, and is not tolerated by the majority).

Perhaps, so too one day, shall be Cis-v-Trans disparaging remarks. But for now, Trans-v-Cis is the minority position... and more people won't tolerate it, than will.

Regardless, just like the "I hate White People" or "I hate men" messages slowed or halted progress for the Civil Rights and Equal Rights movements, the Trans-v-Cis message really does derail the message of "Society should treat us like normal people, and recognize that we have a right to exist" message.

I do think that the "shouting into the wind" need is important.. but putting it in places where people can respond directly to you, only invites the hate mail. And the way internet activism seems to work these days, anyone with an ounce of visibility, if they post one thing wrong, will garner a whole campaign of hate mail warriors.

There was a project on Tumblr called "dearcispeople" which let trans people post anonymous 'shouts' at the wind. I'm not sure if it's still a going concern, as last I checked, it was being taken over by some "artivisim" thing.

http://dearcispeople.tumblr.com/

-- sorry for the wall of text.