At least if this was written by someone other than a gay male, it could be argued that they lack some of the necessary background to understand why it is that we as gay males feel defensive about our own spaces. Instead, it comes across as finger-wagging moralism clouded by a kind of top-down mentality that if one group is not just kissing the ass of another oppressed group then by god, it's a new form of privilege, and how dare that group with more privilege defend itself? Foucault would have a field day with this bullshit kind of 'totem pole' concept of privilege.

There is no gay male culture. There are multiple gay male cultures and he's going on a long, whiny tirade about one or two facets of a single example of a culture of, by, and for gay males for not including... not gay males. Ironically he's actually stereotyping other gay males by assuming that what he's seeing at the gay bars he's been to is the definitive culture of gay males. It isn't. It's not even the entirety of gay bar culture, it's just the culture of those specific gay bars, and there are gay bars that cater to all kinds of different tastes with different attitudes towards women, some dismissive & catty, and some welcoming & open.

That being said, there is one thing that makes most gay men cringe at, and that is having people come into our own spaces telling us that now that we're socially accepted, we've joined straight people in being oppressive for being insular, even though the entire fucking point of rights for LGBT people is gender freedom, both for our partners and ourselves. Part & parcel of that is that in spaces designed by and for men who are interested in men, women may be welcome as guests, but must understand that gay males have precious few spaces of our own and do not take kindly to the concept of others in our space. We put up with straight people constantly, we put our own desires second because we have no other choice, can't we have this one thing?