There is no magical formula that you can learn that will automatically find you a relationship, because that's not how relationships work. If you approach relationships with the idea that if you just perform X task correctly, then a romantic partner will somehow appear, you are going to spend the majority of your life being exceedingly disappointed. I've never lacked for romantic company, but that doesn't mean I was having good healthy relationships. In fact, many of them were terrible and unhealthy, because I was lonely and had incredibly shitty self-esteem. That's a combination a certain kind of asshole can sniff out from 40 miles away, and believe you me, those are not the people you want to be in a relationship with if you ever want to feel better about yourself. I didn't figure out how to find a partner that was actually good for me until I was well into my 20s.

At any rate, I am so hesitant about giving advice to a teenager about how to attract more attention on a site like OKCupid or Tinder, it's not even funny. My own son is only a couple years younger than you, and if he came to me and spoke the way you do, that would be the LAST thing I would ever suggest. Because those assholes with the good senses of smell I mentioned? They are ALL over sites like those, and they can do you a lot of damage.

I'm also not going to tell you to be yourself, either, because that's a useless platitude when you already don't like yourself all that much, which is the vibe I'm getting from everywhere on this post.

So here is my advice instead: work on becoming the kind of person you'd like to be with. You want someone kind and caring? Work on being kind and caring. You want someone interesting? Work on being interesting yourself - for example, figure out what you're good at and then get better at it, whether it's drawing cartoons or playing the guitar or cooking or a sport or whatever - because that's fulfilling for you as a person and also opens you up to other people that are into what you're into, appreciate skill when they see it, or just want to be around someone that is something worth being around.

You want someone attractive? Work on being attractive - and that does NOT mean you have to weigh a certain amount or have a face like Brad Pitt or whatever, it just means you should take care of yourself and take the time to figure out who you are, because personal style counts for a lot, and also serves to make you more interesting. It will take time and you will make mistakes along the way, because we all do, but that's life and that's how we learn. Personal growth ain't easy. If it was, everyone would do it, and we'd be having an entirely different conversation, you & me.

So. As RuPaul would say, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?" Yes, that's a platitude, but this time, it's a useful one. Work on becoming someone you love, so someone else you want to love will want to love you, too. And if that someone else doesn't come around for a long time (or ever - no magic formula, no guarantee, remember?), you'll be fine, because you will be a whole person that would like a relationship to enhance your life, not a partial person that needs a relationship just to fill in all the empty spots.