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TIFU by not using a condom. (self.tifu)

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A year ago, she said she was on birth control.

5 months ago she said she was pregnant but "didn't know until recently".

3 months ago she gave birth.

Yesterday I found out it's mine.

I'm 23. I don't want this.

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[–]anonymys 126 ポイント127 ポイント  (24子コメント)

If you didn't want it, you should have used a condom. Now it's yours, and it's not the kid's fault. Don't make it suffer for your bad decision. GL OP.

EDIT - FWIW, I do sympathize with men in cases of accidental pregnancy where he wishes to give it up/abort and she does not. That's a front that needs considerable legal, ethical, and moral revision as yet, but it's not the subject for debate based on OP's small amount of info.

[–]ETNxMARU 37 ポイント38 ポイント  (0子コメント)

OP better get used to his new responsibilities.

[–]comedygene 35 ポイント36 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Be a good dad. You will find it rewarding. If you can't man up, at least be on time with the child support. Otherwise you're a douche.

[–]CyzeDoesMatter 12 ポイント13 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Don't be silly, wrap your willy

[–]bdawgsupreme 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

don't be silly, 1v1 rust

[–]turbulance4 19 ポイント20 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I'm 29. I've caused 4 pregnancies in my life that I know of (2 miscarriages, 1 abortion, 1 little girl). 3 of which while using various forms of birth control. 1 of those 3 while using condoms.

Life happens. That is the way of things. Going forward Recognize the choices you get to make and the ones you don't. Yes there is a kid, you can't change that. You can be a part of the kids life or not. You can (maybe) be a part of the mother's life or not. There are moral justifications for all choices.

Take you time and figure it out.

[–]jtbrown1 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Would you explain how you got someone pregnant while using condoms? Did they break? Do you remember the incident where your boys got out of the condom?

[–]USMC_spidey 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Condoms aren't 100% effective. It could have been a hole, or an old condom, but they aren't guaranteed to work all the time.

[–]turbulance4 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Condoms are about 99% effective. Which means if you have sex 100 times it fails once. That is if you are 100% good at using them properly. I was a an alcoholic at the time so I can't be sure of that.

[–]We_didnt_listen 27 ポイント28 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Congratulations!!!! :)

[–]IAmTheRealBob 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I had my daughter when i was 17 and my life if going prety good right now, i have no struggles with money or my life style i still have time to do thing i did before.. At first i dreaded it but now i love my Little family, I love coming home to my family after a hard days of work.. I'm 20 now.

[–]WombRaider13 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Same story here, in Bible Belt. Now married. Some good days, most bad, I have nobody to blame but myself. GL, OP. On your side.

[–]anonymys 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

In light of this post, your name is so hilariously ironic.

[–]telePHONYacct 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Username!!

[–]1Chance 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Enjoy it. You will learn alot. Had my daughter that way when I was 18. Then through some damn miricle my son was born using condoms and birth control (I saw her get the shot). You will discover what it means to truly love. And please for the love of peace be a father to them, you decided to make them now please man up and take care of them. Good luck brother it's gonna be a bumpy and joy filled life if you step up and do this right. Remember though they are now your most important thing in life and you are the most important thing to them as well.

[–]Redditall6969 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Maury Show

[–]Im_Legendary 18 ポイント19 ポイント  (9子コメント)

I think the people in this thread are forgetting the fact that she lied to his face by saying she was on birth control. She trapped him, OP did not consent to having a child with this woman.

OP if you don't want this, tell it to her like it is. She trapped you, don't let her control you like this

[–]Fittitor 15 ポイント16 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Birth control isn't 100%. You don't know she lied.

[–]Annami316 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

We don't know that she lied, but according to his statements, she told him when she was 7 months gone. As someone sitting at 9 weeks, I would think she knew well before the 7 month mark that she was pregnant. Keeping it from him was shady. She should have spoke up right away so they could have discussed it and decided together.

[–]InspectorGoole 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You can still get pregnant while using birth control. She may have made a mistake, contraceptive pill is ineffective if you're taking antibiotics at the same time, lots of people i know didnt know this until i told them. She may not have trapped him. It takes two to get pregnant, you should always wear a condom if you don't want a kid, but even that is not 100% effective.

[–]choomaroo 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Birth control pills aren't 100% effective

Condoms aren't 100% effective

Heck, even vasectomies aren't 100% effective

Always take responsibility for your own birth control unless you're at a point where you've both discussed risks and agreed to what you'll do if you encounter that risk.

[–]anonymys 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

This is true, however, typical use failure rate of birth control pills is 9%. Not to mention he took her word for it. Always better to be safe rather than sorry. Use condoms.

[–]hong4 -4 ポイント-3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Not to mention he took her word for it.

Yeah, fuck that guy for trusting his lover.

[–]Profoundlyweyez 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

She probably didn't want it either. Be responsible and take care of your child.

[–]Softwared 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Now you need to make sure the kid won't be as stupid as his father. =)

[–]shit-I-justfuckedup 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You don't want this. Tough shit, you've got it. If you can't accept something like that, go celibate, like all the other irresponsible pricks should be doing.

[–]drfeelokay 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

People are being too tough on you. I agree with their conclusions about what you should do. Be a little nicer, Reddit, he needs support to give support.

[–]ktdwagykawg 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think if you try to be a good Dad you'll end up loving your child and being thankful this happened. Also, as you found out she was pregnant 5 months ago, i don't feel like it was a massive surprise you had a baby yesterday, as you did have sex with her and the times matched up - but i am sorry she lied to you about the birth control (assuming she did lie and she didn't just accidentally miss a pill, or vomit/diarrhoea or something). Guess there's more to this story we don't know. Basically, enjoy your cute baby

[–]XxJellyBeanz 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Whether she lied or not, it takes 2 to tango and sex is supposed to be for having kids. In other words, as prepared as you might be with BC or condoms, pregnancy is always a possible outcome.

[–]frozenanuran 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Get a DNA test for sure.

[–]ExplodingUnicorns 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Never trust a girl when she says she's on BC - unless your willing to have a potential kid with her.

She might not be lying - but that's one of the easiest ways to baby trap a guy if she is.

[–]fabos 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This is really the truth. I've trusted someone 100% and been lied to about the same thing before. Never again.

[–]Sipdippity -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

damnnn dude.

[–]telePHONYacct 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

How'd you find out? Story plz.

[–]Rebellious1 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Accidental pregnancy happens. It isn't like you can shove the kid back up there and pretend it never happened. 2 choices. 1. Be as good a father as you can 2. Stay away from the kid and pay your child support on time.

[–]mdlost1 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Welcome to the club. It sucks but it gets easier. My daughter is 3 and I'm 26. Her mother and I split two months before we sound out she was pregnant. It definitely caused a major change in my lifestyle but I have a cool kid and a pretty good custody agreement. If I was you I'd get a family lawyer ASAP to write up a custody agreement so you can protect you rights early on. If you have questions about it, or want to know anything about being a young single parent feel free to PM me.

[–]midnightmunchees 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You're 23, not 16. Get over it. Grow up. You'll be fine.

[–]Lgrn677 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

There are worse things in life. Time to man up.

[–]mandyjo1986 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Oh well. That's a risk you take for not using a condom anyway. Women can and do lie to people about birth control all the time. Don't take it out on that innocent baby. He/she didn't ask to be born.. Be a father and take care of your responsibilities. If you don't want to be in the child's life, then at least pay child support.

[–]Gravefall 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Happened to me at 18, baby is smart as fuck and I like her so much. I asked where should I finnish... Told me, wherever you want.. GG me!

[–]lipsandlights 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Regardless of what you chose to do for your side of this, don't hold resentment on the mom or the baby.

I'm a single mom (23) but only after trying out the family thing. It was with a guy (even though the baby has his genes) who was not fit or ready to be a parent.

If you aren't ready, then don't let yourself suffer..same for the mom...but if she choses to stay around for this baby, she better be ready.

No resentment. No guilt.

[–]WillowYouIdiot 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Good job, dumbass! Now enjoy your child.

[–]mshamba -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Take more responsibility for your actions. Work harder, and raise that child! It might not be what you want, but it's not fair on the kid for you to abandon him/her along with your girlfriend (or soon-to-be wife).

[–]TheBomar -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Use a condom if you don't want a kid. Or just don't have sex. Simple choices that would keep you being a childless man. Yea, chick should've told you sooner than she did, but in the end its yours.

[–]jaegar01 -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's half urs. Good luck with the future and give Ur kid the life and advice u wish u had. Ul be fine.

[–]PIRATEghost85 -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Dude never bust inside unless you wanna be a dad/ enjoy gambling!