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August 13th, 2014

5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Get Into A Serious Relationship With A Woman

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For centuries, women have been thought the more mysterious sex. Poets, philosophers, and psychologists have all been driven to distraction trying to work out exactly what it is that makes them tick. Of course, the reason such eminent men put in all that effort in the first place is because, like the rest of us, they wanted to get laid. Here is the bind that unites all men—the frustrating and annoying work of unraveling women’s inscrutability, set against our very real and urgent need to bang the most attractive of them.
Fortunately, the internet has facilitated something that most people could never have foreseen: the ability for men to share their experiences of the “fairer” sex and to compare notes on a grand scale. This revolution in gender relations has been quietly—and not so quietly, in some cases—taking place on blogs and websites such as this one for over a decade. The cloak of relative anonymity offered by the ‘net has enabled it. Whereas previously shaming (itself arguably a product of a feminine-primary society) prevented men from talking openly about their experiences, even with close friends, now hundreds of thousands across the world can call out female behavior freely.
Striking and somewhat depressing is how similar and predictable a lot of their stories are. Before discovering the manosphere, I tended towards self-flagellation, beating myself up thinking that women treated me badly because of some fundamental flaw in my personality. How surprising, then, to read hundreds of tales that mirrored my own experiences exactly. Girls flaked on other guys, punished them for beta behavior with infidelity, and walked out on them at the drop of a hat when a better opportunity presented itself too. It wasn’t just me.
Slowly, over a period of a few months, I hardened up my working knowledge of female psychology and put strategies in place to help me better deal with it.
Of course, the manosphere conversation is ongoing and new consensuses are being reached all the time. Here, though, are five things about women I have discovered through my own experiences as well as through talking to other guys. They are all things you should keep in mind, especially if you are considering entering a serious relationship.
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1. Girls will have sex quickly and easily with guys who give them tingles

All of us have at one stage or another bought into the “Madonna-Whore” notion that there are “bad girls” who will put out indiscriminately, and “good girls” who will hold out for the right guy. It’s a meme inculcated into us by the culture. It’s also bollocks.
Understand this: the Madonnas and the Whores are the same girls. 
Some of you may be aware of an article written by Tyler Durden of RSD many years ago called The Secret Society. If not, you should check it out. It contains the kind of wisdom that makes a lot of sense on paper, but only becomes real when you go out and game and have sex with a lot of girls.
The basic gist of it is that if you are a guy who “gets it,” and sub-communicates that he “gets it,” then girls will have sex with you quickly, easily and without putting up all of the obstacles that betas have to contend with. Not only is it true, but it goes for all girls—not just the ones with tattoos and bleached hair and those transparent stripper heels, but also the nice girl in the library with the glasses and the cardigan too.
If you present yourself as ‘r-selected’  rather than k-selected—that is, as a badboy player rather than as a provider simp, then even the good girls will drop their knickers for you quickly.
I know this to be a fact. Last year, I hooked up with the most innocent-looking girl you can imagine. I took her out, and was careful to dial up my r-selected traits. Not only did she sleep with me on the first night, but she continued to do so, in secret, for months afterwards, even after she began seeing another guy.
This phenomenon does rather blow the lid off any fantasies of finding that one special girl to fall in love with and protect and honor through thick and skin, though women’s sexuality does not make them bad people. It is something men can enjoy too, when they learn to play the game. But you do need to open your eyes to the reality of how things works.

2. She has an agenda

So, you met a cute girl, gamed her good and now you’re having regular sex. Great—you’re on easy street, no longer having to battle it out on the flesh rampage in busy clubs and bars, instead enjoying a regular serving of quality poosy, right?
Wrong.
However casual, free, and easy things may seem at the start, make no mistake, your girl has an agenda. If you pass her tests and she likes you enough to stay with you, then she will already be making moves to lock you down into a relationship. This will often involve measures such as keeping increasing tabs on you, trying to limit the time you spend with your friends and demanding more and more attention from you.
The endgame of all of this?
Babies.
I’m sorry, but it’s true. While men are happy to coast along, enjoying the sex and the good times, women are at the mercy of a pitiless biological clock. Make no mistake, she’s not there to “go with the flow” or “just have fun and see where it goes.” She has a very real gameplan (consciously or not) that could end up costing you the best years of your life and a shitload of money.
I’m not saying that she will mention having a family, or that she even knows exactly what she is doing herself, but the only purpose of long-term male-female sexual relationships in a woman’s eyes is reproduction. Not companionship, not “discovering each other,” not growing old together.
If this isn’t your bag, then you need to make a decision about how and when to cut and run.
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3. But she will hate you if you facilitate it

Ironically, though, the more you accede to the demands of her biological imperative, the more she will despise you.
She fucked you in the first place because you demonstrated alpha qualities that made her attracted to you. The more you alter yourself to fit in with what she wants, becoming domesticated within her monogamous frame, the more beta you will appear and the less you will resemble that hot, untameable guy she originally fantasied you were. At this point, she is only a heartbeat away from having sex with the mail man.
This phenomenon is called the Betaization Process. Fear it, because it is real and it is inescapable unless you are thoroughly prepared and vigilant.
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4. She is a depreciating asset

The problem is that, as guys, we are beset with a strange kind of logical failure that kicks in when we meet a cute girl. If a guy is seeing a twenty-three year old, and she is an eight, then there is a good chance he will want to try to cash in his chips, and depart from the table with his winnings by marrying her or otherwise locking her down in a relationship.
In many cases, this is a mistake.
Look, we all know damn well that the hot 23-year-old isn’t going to be a hot 50-year-old. How many times have we seen the effects of the so-called “wall” (that point somewhere in a woman’s thirties where the fresh bloom of her youthful beauty is extinguished, and she becomes less pleasing to the loins of a majority of men).
But we all still want to lock the 23-year-old down.
It doesn’t make any sense.
Women’s youthful beauty becomes a bait with which they reel in men to part with their resources  for many, many years after it has declined beyond all recognition.
Perhaps you believe your special snowflake to be so special that you don’t care about what she looks like in ten, twenty years time. Fine—if that’s genuinely true (and I have my doubts—many men will make this kind of pronouncement from a position of scarcity). But at least be aware of this phenomenon of depreciation and think very carefully before putting a ring on it.
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5. She doesn’t really care about you

She has an agenda (see point 2). You, as the guy, are there to help her fulfill it (even though she will despise you for doing so.) Don’t make the mistake of assuming that she cares about you personally, no matter what she says. The true romantics are men. Women are pragmatists, rather like the cash-hungry film producer who cares little about the cast list as long as the movie gets made on time.
I once had a girlfriend who told me that she would die for me. She was becoming too clingy, so we split up. After I told her I couldn’t see her anymore, she sent me messages every day for a month telling me how upset she was, how special I was, how much she wanted me back. In the face of this barrage, I softened. Perhaps she really did love me as she said. Tentatively, I suggested a meeting. Maybe we could talk. After all, here was a girl displaying a characteristic I valued greatly – devotion. Perhaps I had been too hasty.
Her response?
“I can’t see you. I’m with someone else now.”
I had been replaced. Whatever “special” qualities I possessed had quickly and easily been located in another.
For the record, I abhor cynicism and I don’t write this article to promote it. But I also believe that forewarned is forearmed, and that a realistic grasp of female psychology would help many men to lead happier lives. By all means go out and enjoy the game, but always be vigilant, and above all make sure that your needs are accounted for as well as hers.
Find out more about female psychology and how to effortlessly attract beautiful women by clicking here.
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Troy Francis is a game veteran of a decade's standing, and a lover of women, literature, travel and freedom. He is also the author of The 7 Laws of Seduction. Visit his website at Troy Francis.

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      • Enkise 6 days ago
        Here's my philosophy on relationships, they can happen, but when I'm in one I want 100% percent pure feminine energy out of a girl. A lot of women are like crack dealers to a lot of guys, they give them pure uncut feminine energy and get guys hooked, and after that they start to cut their feminine energy with masculine energy, in an attempt to get these guys chasing the wonderful high of feminine energy. The second she starts trying to become the man in the relationship let her know ONCE, and only ONCE, if she continues drop her ass, I don't want a coworker in my relationship I want an employee that does what I want.
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        • TheRedemption 6 days ago
          Great article, Troy.
          LTRs actually betatize a man. The best thing I liked about your article was the sentence: "understand this: Madonnas and Whores are the same girls."
          This is the ultimate truth about the true nature of women. Most guys think Madonnas and Whores are separate women. No, they're not. The whore was also a madonna at one point in her life. And it doesn't take much time for a madonna to become a whore. That's why women are untrustworthy by default. There was, there is, and there will be a fucking hamster in every human born with a vagina on this planet.
          As a human, it is impossible, if not difficult, for a man to not make mistakes when it comes to women. Because women stun men through sex, femininity, care, and the worst of all, the greatest illusion called 'love'. Men (betas and the rest) think that when a woman gives them great sex, that the woman loves them. That's not the case. Every woman has an agenda, especially when it comes to the use of her body - and especially her holes.
          The depreciating asset about women is bang on. Women actually depreciate faster once they're dead sure that you won't leave them, because they let themselves go bad, Look at Bardot. In her youth, you wouldn't notice her rabbit teeth before sticking your cock in her mouth. Look at her now. Old age is the worst time in a woman's life.
          The other point about women disliking when men facilitate a LTR is also correct - especially in today's world where people fuck around before commitment. Let the woman ask you for a commitment. Never go the other way around. Men used to give commitment and love to get sex, and women used to give sex in return to get love and commitment. In today's time, as a man you don't need to give commitment or even love at all. Just feed the bitches the illusion of these two.
          Women have never cared, do not care and will never care for men. A woman's care for a man is essentially an act of investment. She will only invest her care for you if you: practice game, display high status or have potential in her mind for children, cash and a cushion called as a family for her to fall back in after she's tired of slutting it about. Don't ever think a woman can care for her man. She's rather wish you'd be dead and she could take all what you have.
          The more detached, Machiavellian and dominating (either subtly or openly) you're with a human with a vagina, the more chances you'll get to use it. Women are fucking amoral creatures, so be amoral with them.
          Men enter into LTRs thinking that a woman can complete them. How could that be? Her body is full of hollowness and orifices. She needs a man to fill them up. How could she complete him? On the contrary, without a man, a woman' USB slots have no meaning.
          All alphas chose multiple women for LTRs. Variety in women is the real spice in a man's life.
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            • Clark KEnt > TheRedemption 6 days ago
              I've dated a few women since my last LTR... still getting back into the game.
              I totally agree with the point that if you try to facilitate the LTR she will think you're a loser... its the weirdest shit ever... and with other girls that I refuse LTRs they go insane over me... Let me do whatever the fuck I want to them...
              I've seen too much with women. I can't go back. Even my ex is only nice to me when I treat her like she doesn't exist. If I'm nice and compassionate to her I go down her beta-list. I simply have no choice but to be a dick...
              The West is fucked guys... The culture here is basically just hypergamy unchained. The women have no idea what the hell they want...
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                • TheRedemption > Clark KEnt 6 days ago
                  Don't think the west alone is fucked. This trait of hypergamy is seen in every woman throughout the world. The west is however fucked the most because in other places, the women still have restrictions on them due to culture and society, or sometimes even the local laws.
                  A western man will not see this in a woman say brought up in EE or Asia. But you should see the local men and talk to them. They're more or less facing the same shit in some way or the other from their own women, what a western man faces with a western woman.
                  Women tend to hide their hypergamy when confronted with a man of a strange culture which is more of value than theirs, because of the exotic feel of the man. For an Asian woman, a Western man is of higher value than her own local man, and an Asian man will meanwhile complain about the hypergamy of his own women. You see it everywhere.
                  With women, remember that familiarity breeds contempt in their minds. That's why women usually hold the local men from their own countries with contempt, and tend to fuck around with foreign men. There could be exceptions to this, but you'd see this trend increasingly common in the world today.
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                  • Ddjembe Mutombo > Clark KEnt 5 days ago
                    Can you blame them? Our generation have constantly been feed that education will lead to dream jobs and dream jobs lead to lifelong happiness. I picked up on the bull shit so I am not one of the many unfortunate that have $150k in debt and a useless psych degree. We have been fed our whole lives that our careers define us and make us happy. We were never told that how we treat others is what truly makes us happy. Now we have a bunch of over educated women running around in their late 20's and early 30's trying to find happiness in a title. When they become "manager", they realize it is not enough. When they become "Mrs.", the glory fades in time. When they become "mom", the children soon become a hindrance and a bother. We weren't taught to live for others, we were taught to live for ourselves. In the end, that is what leads to our current mess.
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                      • apeiron > Clark KEnt 6 days ago
                        ALL of my LTR's have been uniformly miserable! Now I know why. If I'd been warned when I was younger, would I have heeded? Likely not...I just HAVE to pee on the electric fence to find out for myself. And yes, I did literally pee on an electric fence when I was a kid. I would rather do that daily than enter another LTR.
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                          • TheRedemption > apeiron 5 days ago
                            The good (or ironically bad) part of game is that with each new success with women, you realize how flawed they are, and unworthy of a LTR.
                            Read Krauser PUA's article about "Dirty bitches love it in the ass". You'll understand the ironies in the nature of even 'good' women.
                            http://krauserpua.com/2012/09/...
                            It's a great post, which exposes the irony in true female nature, and further cements the fact that a whore and a madonna can be the same woman - as mentioned in the article above.
                            The cute, feminine,'traditional', wifely type girl you think could be a real slut in bed with someone else - the r selected international playboy.
                            Would you like to be the boyfriend of these girls that he banged? That's a scary and painful thought, isn't it? But you can see how these 'good' girls don't have any qualms cheating on their boyfriends with a r-selected playboy.
                            In the end that's the inherent mercenariness of female nature. Loyalty essentially is actually a masculine virtue and trait, not feminine. A woman can't die for her motherland or man, the way a man can do for his country or woman.
                            This is a realization which almost every man who has game knowledge comes to. That a good girl is never a 'good' girl. She can be opened up by any guy who has game. Even if she is with a stable provider beta.
                            There are some people who still think good women can stay good women if under the influence of a strong man. That's bullshit. Even if she did, it's because she chose to yield to him. Women are mercenaries when it comes to both loyalty and sex. You must understand that, to get the most out of them. To expect lifelong loyalty or 'love' is nonsense.
                            This is also one of the reasons why alphas in the past were polygamous. Not only because they wanted sexual variety, but they also knew that deep down even a 'good' woman was not trustworthy. A woman's worth as a good woman can only be calculated if she's faithful as long as with you, or in an LTR the day she's dead. As long as she's alive, she can cheat on you.
                            Even if you try to contain her all the time.
                            Ultimately, it's her body. You've had instances in history of 'good' women getting fucked in the ass when they were going to public toilets, or when they were taking off their chastity belts in medieval times to poop. There is no such thing as a good woman as all women are flawed.
                            So the best way to adapt to this is to use (or exploit) women for these very flaws. Don't commit to them, or even if you hypothetically commit, commit to as many as possible. Don't be afraid to walk away. And never invest trust or feelings in women. They're simply not worth it. Use them for their wombs for the sex, and to have children if you want to have any. Just don't get attached to them, to hurt yourself. Read the r-selected playboy and the dirty bitch anal sex article again.
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                          • A guy > TheRedemption 5 days ago
                            Now you understand why a lot of traditional, conservative religions (like Islam) put serious constraints on female behavior through a system of social shaming, deterrence, and punishment. I'm not a muslim nor advocating for Islam (or any other religion) but these people correctly recognized that women are chaotic and need to be kept in check. The modern way of thinking says that if your wife cheats on you, it's your fault for not being sensitive enough, or a good enough lover, or physically attractive enough. That's total bullshit. While you should strive to improve yourself, you should do it for your own sake, not to keep your woman around. And if she does cheat on you, it's always her fault. Seriously, when did we ever even come to question this? If a married woman has sex with a man other than her husband, and does this willingly under her own volition, then who else but her is responsible for it? There's no excuse, not even if the husband is an unemployed impotent alcoholic who beats her every day. For that, there's divorce.
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                            • englishbob > TheRedemption 6 days ago
                              "LTRs actually betatize a man" - only if you let them.
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                                • TheRedemption > englishbob 6 days ago
                                  I wrote that observing the vast majority of men today. Most men, who are not awakened by red pill, become like that in LTRs even if they were pseudo red pill when they were unattached.
                                  I think one trait of alphas was that they chose multiple women for LTRs was not only for variety, but also because to create insecurity in their women. Insecurity in women with regards to their partner's loyalty creates eagerness to please their partner more by behavior, so as to lock their partner down. It all comes down to a matter of controlling the partner. Not to mention that women are always more attracted to men who are already desired by other women. This is seen sometimes today in female nature, as with the relaxation of shackles on female hypergamy, women sometimes even outright chase married or taken men. They want what is already wanted or taken by other women. The proof that the man is taken or desired by a fellow woman, propels a woman to chase him.
                                  In a one to one LTR, women actually become secure. And that is often the trigger for her hamster - especially if her partner is already a beta or betatized. True you could be an alpha and still maintain a monogamous LTR, but essentially you must display 'options' and a willingness to walk away. Women never can hurt a man who has 'options'.
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                                  • Sam Rogers > englishbob 5 days ago
                                    I agree. With every LTR I shut down I got stronger and gave less shit about what women thought. Now I'm quite happy baching it, though I do get relationship pangs once in a while (I never claimed to be an Alpha, more likely a Beta who just stopped giving a shit).
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                                      • englishbob > Sam Rogers 5 days ago
                                        My father is the ultimate alpha male. Wronged by female relatives while still a child and growing up in the ghetto prepared him for a changing world although he was still blindsided by my mother when she divorced him. My father ran his family like a military camp. When he said "go" you went.
                                        Watching what my mother did to my father and growing up in a racist neighbourhood where the girls were more racist than the boys (if you fought the boys they respected you but fighting the girls...?) set me further down the path that my father had started on. Unfortunately, the result is my father is bitter and we are both scared of letting women close enough where they can pick our pockets. Its a tough thing but I do want kids some day.
                                        On another note my father is the aging lion who won't let the young lion take control of the pride. We still butt heads like angry goats when I pay him a visit.
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                                    • Bane > TheRedemption 6 days ago
                                      No one is going to read that, faggot.
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                                      • Mr.Correcto > TheRedemption 4 days ago
                                        Bravo, my good sir.
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                                        • Lance Christopher 5 days ago
                                          Out fucking standing. What feminism and western governments have done in a nutshell is that they've exposed civilisation in all of its superficiality. There were extremely vital aspects of civilisation, such as property, primogeniture, and the divine right of kings and mostly, the patriarchy. However, with that said, there were numerous lies that the last three centuries of civilisation unleashed on humanity, mainly being, blind equality and romance. The last of these, inspires the betaisation process whereby men cover the female populace in a veneer of really... bullshit. She's pure, an angel, 'my love'.
                                          All lies, that honestly I'm glad the current society has deconstructed, and when we finally reconstruct the patriarchy, we'll never again let so many 'intellectuals', poets and other writers especially of the alien variety, blind us to the true nature of women. As a friend once commented, the current owners of society (yes you have owners), have unleashed Darwinism upon the West. Humans were never monogamous, but it was imperative that we limited women's sexual behaviour due to paternity and inheritance. All this bullshit about love and being together forever is garbage of the first order.
                                          Marriage was an economic contract, and no man then and now should ever attempt unless he marries above his rank or in his rank (meaning above $20 million). Honestly, none of you should marry a woman unless her net worth is above $1 million. Fuck her yes, breed a few bastards sure, but marry her, absolutely not. Superb article, unleash the primal beast. Women, especially here are duplicitous and their words are empty. I don't care what they say, even if it's 'I've been raped', 'I love you', 'my mother's dying of cancer'. Fuck them all. Whenever I feel tempted to retract on my zero-give a fucks policy, due to tempting serpent tongues of some women, I'll look at a picture of Stalin! Yes, fucking Joseph Stalin, to remind myself that in this era of feminism, I must be cold as fucking iced steel. Not an inch.
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                                          • Yosh 6 days ago
                                            So you should get into a serious relationship with what, a dog? a sheep? a bear? Sorry dude, if fatherhood is the capstone of civilization, then men will need to look for a serious relationships with women. The key is getting into a relationship with the right woman.
                                            I'm sorry you've been jilted by whatever woma(e)n you once loved, but please don't come here like you're some Mark Minter second coming and preach why men should not enter serious relationship with women whatsoever.
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