This case is not a double standard. If the roles were reversed, if he could only get off on oral and she said that wasn't her problem and also he's unattractive, you can bet this sub would be telling him to dump her. That's a jerk move, no matter who you are. He could at least be saying, let's work out a way to get you to feel comfortable masturbating. If he cared about her at all, her getting off would be important to him. You're making an idiot of yourself by pushing this as a double standard. He's being a jerk. Anyone who says things like that to their partner is a jerk. Edit: according to what she's written, she's not pressuring him to do anything. She asked if he'd be up for another round, and mentioned, not for the first time, that's she's sexually frustrated and has only gotten off three times in the past year. And he blew up on her.

Edit: word