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Bullying Disabled People Is Never Ok - But It's Even Worse When You've Got 8.7Million Fans Watching

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We all love a bit of George Takei, don't we? Of all the celebrities on social media; he probably wins for using it most effectively. Well, possibly second only to Stephen Fry. "Successful social media strategist" must be on the same bit of twizzly DNA as the gay gene. It would explain how I've managed to get more than 2,000 Twitter followers despite mostly just moaning about the waiting times at my doctors' surgery.
I'm grateful for his outspokenness on matters relating to LGBT equality. His pictures frequently made me roar with laughter. Until this weekend when the laughter stopped.
On Saturday Takei posted on both Facebook and Twitter an image of a wheelchair-using woman standing up to reach something from the top shelf in a store. The picture is captioned "there has been a miracle in the alcohol isle" [sic].
I know Takei didn't create the meme, I'd seen it before this weekend. But he has 1.3million Twitter followers and nearly 7.4million Facebook fans. He introduced a sum total of 8.7million people to this image.
Lots of disabled people were offended by this post and the harassment it encourages and told him so. This prompted a follow up post from Takei saying:
Fans get "offended" from time to time by my posts. There hardly is a day where something I put up doesn't engender controversy. Concerned fans, worried the sky may fall, ask me to "take it down."
So I'm also going to ask them also to take it down - a notch, please.
I wasn't one of the people who asked him to take it down, I hadn't actually seen the original post until after I saw the "ner ner screw you" statement.
I had no concerns about falling skies, but what I did have was a fear of disablist hate crime being escalated. A fear that's not unfounded.
There's this huge misconception that if you can stand up for even a second, you must be faking your impairment. For that matter; you get called a "faker" if you can move your legs at all. I remember once, long ago in my stand-up days, I was on stage in my wheelchair and I crossed my legs. I didn't even notice I'd done it; I guess I must have been slightly uncomfortable so the subconscious part of my brain decided to do something about it.
This prompted a heckler to shout "Faker! You moved your leg!"
I had a microphone and a smart mouth. It doesn't take a genius to guess who came off the worst in that situation. Even his girlfriend looked ashamed to be seen with him. I was lucky I had an audience on my side. That's not always the case when people move their legs. Sarah said to me "I once had a woman come running over from the other side of the shop literally screaming "I saw you move your leg, you ****". Luckily there were other people around or it would have been terrifying." On the subject of Takei she added "People simply don't realise the damage this sort of "joke" can lead to. (or don't want to believe it)"
I have a condition that means that my bones break easily and my tendons and ligaments aren't strong enough to do their job. Most people have tendons and ligaments that are like sturdy string: They have the tensile strength to make sure joints only bend in the direction they're supposed to, and they're also strong enough to stop the joint from dislocating. Not me: All my joints have either been shattered or they bend backwards. And occasionally sideways or in other directions joints generally aren't supposed to go. Last Friday I managed to dislocate my knee by opening a window.
So I use a wheelchair a lot of the time because walking on smashed-up joints hurts. Walking with knees that bend backwards hurts. After a while my joints swell up so much from all the strain exerted on them that they just stop moving at all. It's not only for pain purposes that I use a chair: I'm only physically capable of walking extremely slowly and having such wobbly joints means you could knock me over by breathing in my general direction. And when I hit the floor I almost always manage to break at least one bone. I'm 35 years old and have had roughly 75 fractures.
But - despite needing a wheelchair for anything more than a couple of steps - I can stand up to reach something from a supermarket shelf. The person being mocked in that meme could so easily have been me. It's sheer luck that it wasn't.
My friend Jack has experienced abuse while doing the shopping. He said "I've had people get quite abusive because of doing this, all of a sudden because I can stand I'm a scrounger, shirker and many more other horrible names."
Another friend, D H Kelly, has learned to self-police to avoid getting grief: "I've not been abused but get more glares and mumbles than I could count. I've known to linger suspiciously for an inordinate amount of time until the supermarket aisle has cleared so I can stand and reach for the yoghurt without being noticed." She lives more rurally than me. Living in Central London I'd be sat there until about 4am if I waited for the aisle to empty of people before standing up to get something.
Supermarkets aren't the only place where disabled people aren't allowed to stand up without the risk of mumbles, verbal abuse, or ending up an internet meme with 8.7 million people laughing at you. Abbi told me that "the train station where I live is unmanned so I have to get out without a ramp. Usually my brother is waiting for me on the platform to help me off, but sometimes he's not there in time, so I'll step out and pull my chair down after me. Other passengers will almost always help me lift the chair out, but on occasion - usually in the evening when people have been drinking - I do get dirty looks, and have been told I'm faking or 'milking it'. I try not to pay much attention, because I'm so often amazed by how helpful complete strangers can be in that kind of situation, but it is upsetting. It's hard enough trying to navigate inaccessible situations alone, which can be both stressful and painful, without being openly abused for it."
My friend Charlotte said "One of the most upsetting encounters was when someone told me I was a waste of the NHS' money and clearly wasn't disabled because I was pushing my empty wheelchair / leaning on it for support across the grass."
Lisa Hammond told me that comments she's heard include "are you just lazy?" And "oh my god you're such a faker."
This ongoing background noise of bullying for existing while disabled is unpleasant enough. But it can get so much more serious than just verbal remarks.
My friend Pippa walks with a crutch. She was once followed home by someone yelling "f***ing DLA stick" at her. Can you imagine how vulnerable you would feel with someone like that knowing where you live?
My friend David was one of the disabled people that posted in reply to Takei on Facebook. He explained in his comment "I've been physically assaulted for walking while disabled, I'm well into double figures with verbal abuse, usually claiming I'm faking my disability for welfare fraud. And that's pretty much a typical experience for all my disabled friends. Having influential figures like George Takei publishing a meme that reinforces disabled=fake is incredibly damaging to disabled people."
Adam said that the attacks calling him "a scrounger and fraudster have become beyond the joke. I have even had to face an audit under Caution by [JobCentre Plus] when someone contacted benefit fraud line to say I was not as disabled as I made out to be."
Adam's not alone. In fact 96% of calls to the National Benefit Fraud Hotline are malicious or timewasting. That's a lot of people really putting a lot of effort into their disablist harassment to make sure their victims suffer as much as possible. I bet they all found the meme Takei shared to be hilarious.
The really galling thing about all of this is that just 3 months ago Takei received an award for making "a significant difference in promoting equality." Condoning and encouraging the bullying of disabled people does not promote equality. Far from it.
I'm not perfect. I know I've said offensive things in the past. Sometimes without thinking, and sometimes because I didn't understand the issues involved. When people point out that what I've said is offensive, I apologise and try to learn from the situation. I'm hoping that Takei didn't mean harm when he first shared that picture. I'm hoping that he shared it out of ignorance. Perhaps he genuinely thought that all wheelchair users are completely unable to stand up. Perhaps he didn't realise just how much harassment disabled people face for trying to do such a simple thing as going to the supermarket.
Where he really screwed up was in his refusal to back down when countless people commented on the post explaining how offensive it was. Plenty of people shared their experiences of being on the receiving end of disablist bullying; a fire Takei was liberally pouring fuel onto. His reaction wasn't to learn from what people were saying, it was to tell the victims of harassment to "take it down - a notch". I wonder if he'd say the same thing to gay people telling him about their experiences of homophobic bullying for having the audacity to be true to themselves in the supermarket?
Since this weekend he's posted this cartoon satirising discrimination against gay people, adding his own comment that so much bigotry and discrimination comes down "it's icky". As a gay person I'm deeply grateful that someone so prominent is so defensive of my (recently won) right to marry. But put into the context of his post mocking disabled people four days earlier my first thought was "I guess he thinks I'm icky then."
In the UK around 18% of the population overall have some kind of impairment. But this rises to 45% of people over state pension age. I'm guessing that the figures are roughly similar in the US.
Takei is 77. If he hasn't yet acquired an age-related impairment like arthritis, the chances are reasonable that he might at some point. A lot of older people with arthritis, like my late nan, are able to walk short distances, but need to use a mobility aid for longer journeys like the trek around a giant supermarket. If Takei - or one of his friends or relatives for that matter - was just trying to do the weekly shop and stood up for a second to grab a bottle of wine to serve with lunch, and ended up being a joke that 8.7million people were laughing at: I wonder if he'd still find it so funny?
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  • Welsh Wallace Art
    I am fully blind and numerous times I have been called a faker because they see me doing something and assuming blind people cant possibly do that. Even online you get accused of it - "your blind so how can you use a computer". one incident though shook my confidence. a couple of lads were laughing at me during the winter when it was snowing because my white cane i not great at guiding me in snow as i cannot feel the pavement too well. They came over to me saying i wasnt really blind just after benefits (I am self employed) next thing I know i am hit in the face and the lad laughing saying "well she must be blind as she didnt see that coming" The police were sympathetic but then they said i wouldnt be a good witness a I was unable to provide a visual description

    People now wonder why I dont like going out on my own anymore.
     
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  • Claire Heywood · Postgrad. Research Student at University of Huddersfield - Research Student
    I use a stick for walking and got abused - guy who lives down the road bellowed at the top of his voice' oh you f**king c***, I'm reporting you, there's nothing wrong with you - I'll put you in f***ing hospital myself' Especially nice as the kids were walking home from the local primary school. Refused to put up with it and reported it to the police who were amazing. Went to his house that evening and gave him an anti- harassment order - (I think it's called), then rang me back and told me what they'd down and said if he even looked at me to ring them back!!
    • Catherine Martinez · Top commenter · Miami University
      Six months ago I lost my job and after that I was fortunate enough to stumble upon a great website which literally saved me. I started working for them online and in a short time after I've started averaging 15k a month... The best thing was that cause I am not that computer savvy all I needed was some basic typing skills and internet access to start... This is where to start... w­w­w.G­o­j­o­b­3­6­0.c­o­m
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    I wonder how many of the commenters saying this is PC gone mad or people are being too sensitive are disabled themselves? It is the old saying

    "walk a mile in my shoes,
    see what I see,
    hear what I hear,
    feel what I feel THEN
    maybe you will understand.
    'till then don't judge me"

    Disability hate crime has soared the past 2 years to it's highest since record began. Abuse has become common place towards the disabled and it wears you down. Indirect mocking of the disabled has a knock on effect to the intended abuse.

    Being a public figure he has an element of responsibility not to add to this even if meant tongue in cheek because it just reinforces opinions of those who will hurl the abuse. I lost my sight suddenly & until then I never experienced abuse. It is like walking into another world I didn;t know existed.So easy to say "get over it" when you do not have to deal with it everytime you step out of your front door.
       
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    • Ron Graves · Top commenter
      Takei is a malign cretin. As a wheelchair user I can stand (you can just see my crutches in my avi). What I can't do is walk worth a damn without excruciating pain.

      If Takei has problems comprehending that pain exists even though he can't see it, perhaps he should come and listen, most nights, when at some point I invariably scream myself awake in agony.
      • Charlie Carrel · Works at Poker
        He didn't make the meme. He simply shared something that he thought was funny. It may be considered distasteful to some, and I'm sure he didn't know it would have this kind of reaction. Do not mistake ignorance for malignancy.
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      • Ian Robertson · Top commenter · Bath and Kingston
        Yes, Ron. I am the same. I can't walk without pain and then only 10 feet of agony. I can stand tho, to get something off a shelf in a shop. Why do people assume wheel chair users can't walk or stand at all? It's like someone with a broken arm in a sling can't use their fingers?
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    • Charlie Carrel · Works at Poker
      This is ridiculous. I haven't seen the meme, but it's obviously not mocking disabled people. It may be mocking people that are *actually* faking, but in no way is it saying that disabled people are faking their disabilities.
      • M Hei Lam · Cambridge, Cambridgeshire
        On first glance, I want to say that people who use wheelchairs and supports may in fact walk or stand for short periods but strain from extended durations of standing/walking can cause serious problems. While not intentional, Takei IS in fact using a very mainstream and unnuanced view of disabilities and spreading it. There is a huge context of people with disabilities, both physical and mental (of the latter which I am categorized, and I have friends as well), are being told that they are "making their problems up", so in context of that it's actually very damaging. We're talking about a society where people claim that people with disabilities are wasting taxpayer's money by faking problems, when in reality lots of people who need support do not get it, the same society that has few qualms about spending billions on war, etc etc, but can't be bothered to send a relatively inconsequential sum for the poor and needy.

        I am generally a big supporter of Takei, but we must not let our adoration blind us, and in this case I think he is wrong.
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      • M Hei Lam · Cambridge, Cambridgeshire
        Okay I read the rest of the article and they've mentioned that.

        But like I said, this joke is based entirely around the idea that this person must be faking their injury to stand up from a wheelchair, a fact that is clearly shown to be inconclusive/wrong. This joke is based on and assumes as truth a damaging and widely held belief. It is therefore problematic. That I think is all there is to it.

        I generally think Takei is a cool guy, but he's wrong in this case, and he's wrong to have not taken a minute to admit it. There's nothing worse than unwillingness to accept your mistakes I think, and that certainly lowers my esteem for him.
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      • Charlie Carrel · Works at Poker
        M Hei Lam I understand and agree with your view of what kind of knock-on effect this will have on the less educated public. I agree that this meme probably shouldn't be shared. But there's a distinct difference between intended harm and unintended harm. This article is effectively saying that he is bullying people with disabilities. He may be inadvertently adding coal to the fire, but he is definitely not bullying. I'm not being biased in my views; he definitely made a misstep. But one can easily see how easy that misstep is to make when posting a large number of memes and jokes a day.
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    • David Gillon · Top commenter · Lancaster University
      The unfortunate reality is that disabled people often are harassed for not being disabled in the way non-disabled people think we should be. I've had multiple incidents of on-street harassment from absolute strangers, almost inevitably in packs, including chilling shouts of 'we know where you live'. I've had someone physically assault me for walking while disabled, and I've had someone try to frame me for welfare fraud by making a false accusation to the Benefit Fraud Hotline. That last one put me through three months of physical hell from the flare-up it triggered, so don't think for a minute that this is just harmless fun.

      So when people, particularly influential people like Takei, post memes like this one, memes that say '<nudge><nudge>, you know they're all really faking, don't you!', disabled people try to explain that act...ually most wheelchair users can walk to some degree (I saw the figure of 85% in something I was reading earlier), and that this meme isn't just damaging, it actually contributes to disability hate crime.

      And what result do we get? Takei (or his sockpuppetteer) telling us to 'take it down', as though we are in the wrong and not him. And in the comments we find non-disabled people telling us it's just a joke and we have no right to criticize, and besides, maybe she was faking. That isn't just a rejection of our viewpoint, it's a rejection of our right to have a viewpoint, and maybe, just maybe, that says that we're absolutely right to object.
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      • Janet Kneebone
        David, I am so sorry you have had to put up with such awful harassment!
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    • Sher Smith
      I have mobility problems & I personally found it quite comical. It was more so to do with the fact she was standing up to reach alcohol of all things.
      • Ian Robertson · Top commenter · Bath and Kingston
        Sher, I tend to agree with you. I am disabled but could also see the comedy in his post. I think if we are unable to laugh at ourselves, it creates a divide. It could be that the person wasn't in real need of a wheelchair - the important point being . . not judge people until we know more about them.
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      • Sher Smith
        Ian Robertson The thing is the world has gone 'PC Mad' & many people just look for any excuse to have a whinge. Next thing you know, we won't be allowed to breathe for fear of offending someone.
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      • David Gillon · Top commenter · Lancaster University
        Is it being PC mad to object when I, or one of my disabled friends, is attacked or abused in the street as a supposed fake? Unfortunately this meme contributes to the disastrously widespread perception of disabled people as fakes and frauds, and that makes it dangerous.
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    • Teoma James · Top commenter · Creatrix at In My Studio
      My friend is mobility impaired. She's been called names and treated badly in public for not conforming to notions people have about how mobility impaired people are supposed to be or move or act. It's outrageously arrogant to assume you know all about a person's condition on sight, but it seems that there are people who really think that way.

      The day she saw this meme she was really upset by it. It brought up all that ignorance and judgmental attitude she'd received previously and threw it in her face by offering people a chance to have a laugh at the expense of a disabled person, be ignorant and judge the wheelchair user in the meme. It was in poor taste.

      I felt certain Mr. Takei would be offered some education---well, not just some---most likely a HUGE amount of education as to why the image was insensitive. A public acknowledgement that he erred might have been nice. It certainly would have made me smile if he'd done so.

      Then again, imagine just how many people have gotten in touch with him, one way or another? Imagine how upset some of them might have been? I'm sure he'd like to turn down the volume on this one by now.
         
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      • Conan Doyle · Bexleyheath, Bexley, United Kingdom
        As someone with a variable mobility impairment - most of the time I need a stick for balance, but I can take a few steps without it - I've had all the slurs shouted at me. Since the symptoms of my condition are medically proven to improve, in the short term, with alcohol consumption, I see absolutely nothing funny about reaching for a bottle of vodka, especially as I'm spending hours in the gym every week to make my shoulders strong enough to propel me on the inevitable day that both my legs fail, and I need a wheelchair.

        The thing is, I've been one of several people to directly criticise Takei for an off-colour post, and in the past he has done the right thing and apologised when he realised his posts were offensive. That he tried to justify himself this time is what really makes this an issue worth writing about.
           
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        • Trent Condellone · Top commenter · Works at Information Technology Specialist
          The right is promoting the idea that not only "real" disabled people shouldn't be physically able to do this or that, but that they shouldn't even be allowed to have the same things as "normal" people do, like liquor, nice food, etc. The bottom line is that to be disabled in America is to be considered a second class person, at best, and fair game to be used a a scapegoat by the right wing.
             
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          little Britain made this type of joke all the time and no one cared so why is everyone so hurt by this, its a joke get over it
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          "Get over it"? This is about far more than a joke. It is about regular abuse which is increased by these "jokes".
          People did care about Little Britain. It caused a lot of problems for disabled people for exactly the same reasons.
          Why are people so hurt? It isn't about hurt feelings at all. If you read the article you should understand. The "joke" propagates the myth that wheelchair users can't and shouldn't stand or be able to walk at all, not even a few steps. If they can, then people believe they are faking. Disabled people then encounter abuse both verbal and even physical.
          If, instead of posting things like this, people like Takei tried to educate people on the facts about wheelchair users, then the abuse might lessen rather than increase.
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          There are may times when a disability isn't disabling but that doesn't make it any less of a disability. We get similar with my son (who is autistic) occasionally people see him being 'normal' therefore he's fine all the time... :/

          I wrote a blog post about it that covers a little bit of the ground you mention (being occasionally 'able'): http://maft.co.uk/musings/2014/trust-them-theyre-professionals/
          Super User · 136 Fans · Moderation in all things
          I agree MaFt, it's even worse having a 'Hidden' disability.
          Super User · 26 Fans
          Maybe it needs more education about the reasons that people need wheelchairs? OK a bit of thought by an intelligent person might would/could/might work out the reason someone can stand momentarily but unfortunately a lot of people don't have the capability to work it out.

          As for people who rush across a supermarke to berate you for moving - they are probably irredemably stupid - disabled in their own way.
          HuffPost Blogger · 1 Fan
          It really made me feel sad to read this, unfortunately there is ignorance all around us. My sister has special needs and has been verbally abused because she looks "normal" and people don't understand her ways. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all!
          Super User · 559 Fans · I came, I saw...I had a cup of tea!
          I like George too, I hope he's learned his lesson, I'm sure he's not like that really and pro-equality on all levels.
          Thank you for this enlightening, sensitive article, which will benefit many of us.
          226 Fans · I chase the rainbow through the rain
          He's occasionally funny. This was not one of the occasions...
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