29th
2014
12 notes
Can any followers better answer this? I’m low on spoons.
To me, preference is about what you prefer, whereas orientation is what you are exclusively attracted to.
I prefer Asian women. My orientation isn’t “attracted to Asian women” because I have the capacity to be attracted to non-Asian women as well.
I hope that helps a little! (๑>◡<๑)
EDIT: Sorry faeribbon. I did not check out your about, which I should have, and didn’t notice that you are actually of Chinese descent yourself and therefore my reply isn’t relevant to you as your preference is probably for safety, not for the reasons I describe below.
~ This reply is in general, mostly towards my fellow white people. ~
Fetishization is not just “a preference” it is a racist preference due to fetishization of WOC. There are literally millions of Asian women. They are not all alike at all whatsoever. So you need to think about why you think they’re all so much the same that you just prefer them in general. Hint: I bet it comes down to racist teachings we all learn.
You need to really think critically about any preferences you have and whether or not they’re because you like to have reading in common (ie I prefer to date people who enjoy reading) or because of fetishization and hypersexualization (and hyposexualization) of WOC due to white supremacy and racism (ie I prefer to date x race)?
For anon: preference is a choice you make. Orientation is not.
Sorry - I apologize, faeribbon! I really just came across the post and went looking through your notes without checking your about as I should have. I’m very sorry for jumping to conclusions. Is it okay if I leave my commentary up? I’ve edited my original ask a bit, but will go ahead and delete my reply if you prefer. (I think with the term preference up there, it’s something that is likely to come up in a dangerous manner.)
That’s alright~ I do that too sometimes. I probably should have mentioned that I’m not white, haha!
And yes your commentary is perfect! ^u^