It's not hyperbole; I was stopped no less that twice yesterday by strange men making inappropriate comments before I got off my block. Not just catcalls, but guys pulling up on the side of the curb to 'talk' to me. So don't tell me that's hyperbole when it's a very real part of my day-to-day life.

I still don't believe that isn't hyperbole, but, so what if it isn't? You are not representative of all women. You are not exemplary of the average or common. Your experience, even if taken as valid and significant, does not mean anything to the world at large.

I've been raped by men and women. I've been physically assault by both sexes, I've been sexually harassed by both sexes, I've been robbed and mugged multiple times. Yet my experiences aren't important. They don't dictate how every man in the world should feel, they don't dictate how every man in the world should act. You do not dictate the experience of all women.

So, even if you are not being hyperbolic, which I still believe you are, it is utterly irrelevant because it means nothing to the grand scheme of things. It is not indicative of a "systematic" issue.

And yes, men are the victims of more crimes in general, but when we are talking specifically about sexual assault and the precautions that women are expected to take to prevent it, that's not relevant. It's like bringing up the NFL in a conversation about the World Cup; both are football, but very different kinds.

Cute. Crime is awful, and men actually suffer more violent crime then women, but it's not relevant because you say so? They are all crime. You are significantly less likely to be the victim of sexual violence than you are other crimes, why, then, is sexual violence more significant? By what standard are you basing it on?

OH, right, because this is feminism which is attempting to promote, not equality, not solution, but pure female privilege and sexual violence is the only crime they can claim that on. More women suffer physical violence than they do sexual violence, why isn't that the focus? Right, because men suffer more physical violence than women. More women are mugged than suffer sexual violence, why isn't that a larger concern? Right, because more men are mugged than women.

Sexual assault is the only crime where women suffer more than men, the only one. And, shocking, it's the only one that is "caused by men's views towards women." Despite the fact that men are not nearly as unlikely to suffer sexual violence than women are. Despite the fact that men are far less likely to be taken seriously as the victims of sexual violence than women. Despite the fact that men are refused victim services for sexual violence because those are "for women."

No, sexual violence is an issue that only effects women and it is so rampant in our society that it's shocking a woman is able to so much as get out of her bedroom in the morning without at least three men raping her.

You know, at this point, you can take your pompous "women have it sooo bad and have to be sooo careful" attitude and shove it. Because attempting to label your pathetic little notions of men fucking talking to you to the same level as actual rape is so fucking insulting that I cannot handle it. I am personally fucking insulted by it because you have no fucking clue, none at all.

Because, I've seen first hand what happens to women who are raped. I know it. It's a down right awful fucking experience. I know it because when I was five my baby sitter had her boyfriend over and he raped her and it had to be awful for her. I know it had to be the worst fucking experience of her life because I was totally oblivious to the significance of what was happening and so she had to go through crying and screaming while he raped her, knowing that a little boy who has no fucking clue what's going on is literally right outside the door. I was actually in the room when it started but her boyfriend threw me out when I made a noise.

I've seen first hand how the police treated her because I was there, not for all of it, but a significant portion. I was there at the trial, and I know all of it was horrible for her. Sexual violence is awful, all crime is awful, we should find solutions to prevent all crime. But this focus that women are nothing more than walking rape targets is absurd. Or that women get absolutely no help from the system is ridiculous. Or that, society as a whole, is against women who are raped is laughable.

Here's my second story. When I was in college, I went out to a party with friends as am was often want to do. I ended up getting way too drunk and passing out there. I woke up to my friends really creepy roommate riding me, my hands tied to bed posts. I kicked, I cried, didn't get any help until she decided she was done I guess, I don't know, I mostly shut down at that point. She then kicked the way hung over and totally violated me out of her room. I stumbled, went home, tried to shower, not feel so disgusted with myself. Eventually made my way to Victims Services on campus where they fucking laughed at my story.

They laughed. They literally used the "men can't be raped" line and told me that "this is only for women who are victims of sexual assault, you don't qualify" and sent me away. I tried going to the police who, while not as bitchy about it, told me the same damn thing. Nothing happened to her, very few people ever believed me, despite, you know, being a huge flaming gay guy yet somehow I totes wanted to sleep with her. (Despite this, I still wouldn't say my experience is the norm. Studies which show this to be the norm would, but my experience is just my experience.)

So, again, shove your "society is against women and sexual violence" bullshit up your fucking ass and educate yourself.