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Where did our compassion go? (self.AskMen)

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[–]killroy1971 1 ポイント2 ポイント

Welcome to your 30s. Not much has really changed, but your perceptions have.

As for Charlie Brown, we're supposed to feel empathy. He tries too hard, but has yet to harden his heart. The other kids aren't exactly well balanced either. But it's just a cartoon.

Relax and live your life the best you can. If you dig the nerdy guys, go be with them. If you desire other companionship, seek it out.

[–]Stevebutnotreally[S] -1 ポイント0 ポイント

Good advice. I think part of it is the self-recognition that not all my qualities are positive. Frankly, I don't trust myself to do the right thing. I'm too obsessive, too needy, too competitive. If I just, 'let it go', I see myself doing negative things, so I consign myself to inaction.

[–]killroy1971 2 ポイント3 ポイント

Then you need to build your self worth. Start by keeping bucket lists.

  1. Projects you intended to do (even cleaning out your closet) but never quite get around to it
  2. Break down into tasks
  3. Monthly
  4. Yearly

Don't beat yourself up if you don't get it all done.

It works for me when I'm feeling down.

[–]Stevebutnotreally[S] -3 ポイント-2 ポイント

What if my bucket list includes revenge against everyone who ever wronged me, and my long term goals include becoming dictator of a small country? You really want me building my self worth so that I actually do those things?

[–]201406 3 ポイント4 ポイント

You're first goal should be to pull your head out of your ass.

[–]Stevebutnotreally[S] -1 ポイント0 ポイント

But you do see why the whole, "Build your self-worth, go out and get what you want, take the world by the horns," stuff may not necessarily be the best advice for someone who has negative inclinations, yes? I'm fairly convinced not doing those things was the right decision, but I feel like people have no sense of that possibility.

[–]201406 2 ポイント3 ポイント

Take your accurately identified problems by the horns.

[–]twwwy [score hidden]

your 1st goal should be to read the nuance/details of a post instead of taking it literally... and 2nd goal: you're/your distinction learning.

see, how being incompassionate and ready-to-rumble is negative and counterproductive...?

[–]killroy1971 0 ポイント1 ポイント

Task One: Seek therapy