Anonyme a dit: I'm trying to become more of feminist and I hear my brother talk about the friendzone and stuff an I want to tell him to stfu but I can't find a legit meant argument for it. So why do you think the friendzone does not exist?

What does exists is the situation in which you’re romantically interested in someone but they don’t reciprocate the feelings and would rather be friends.  That’s not what anyone is saying when they say the friendzone is bullshit, because it’s obviously possible for someone to prefer to be friends instead of partners with another person.

The problem with the ‘friendzone’ is that it’s a concept that has evolved into something larger. The friendzone vilifies women who don’t want to be in a sexual or romantic relationship with men.

The friendzone is seen as a place bitchy, picky women put men who were nothing but nice to them. Stuck-up women put ‘good, fun-loving decent’ guys in the friendzone and only date those handsome guys who won’t treat them right.

The problem with the friendzone is that it’s just something big entitled cry-babies use when their crush doesn’t like them back. It’s the biggest fucking victim-complex ever.

Instead of just accepting that there’s no chemistry or reciprocated interest, friendzoned men will whine that they’ve been done a great injustice.

The friendzone is insulting to women. In addition to demonizing a woman’s choice to remain in a platonic relationship with someone, it overall creates and enforces negative and dangerous feelings towards women as a whole. It reinforces that women are here for romance and sex and that just being friends with them worthless. They’re good for nothing else. If they want to be friends, you’ve been done a great injustice and she’s a bitch.

It’s dangerous to enforce the idea of the friendzone because if you didn’t notice from the recent Elliot Rodger fuckstorm, the idea that women OWE men sex and romance can have FATAL AND TRAGIC results.

Tell your brother to quit treating women as sexual prizes. Quit treating their friendship as worthless shit. Quit making women feel inadequate if they’re not having sex with you. Quit making women so afraid to reject men. Quit making women feel like they owe men their bodies and their affection.

The idea that sometimes our feelings aren’t reciprocated is completely real. But the Friendzone is some next level victim complex woman-hating shit we need to retire.