Hello Everyone,

I am going to try and do this with as little drama as possible. That said, I’m not happy, so there is going to be moderate drama. Either way, I felt it my job to explain myself to you guys, so the purpose of this is to fill you in before I go.

I’ve been a moderator of this subreddit for something over a year now. (Seriously, I have no idea; it may be closer to two years, now that I think about it.) Last night, I was unmodded. This was completely out of the blue and essentially without warning. I have attempted to discuss this with the other mods, to no avail; to be fair, most of them are completely in the dark about this.

I am not going to provide screencaps or detailed descriptions, because the specifics of what happened wasn’t important and I feel it is distasteful to reveal things that are said in private publicly. When we’ve released modmails before, we discussed it beforehand.

I am not a perfect person or a perfect moderator, but I have always done my best for you guys. I’ve been going through a difficult time lately, and a lot of huge changes have been going on in my personal life. The mod team is aware of all of this in excruciating detail. I’ve been very stressed out and a lot of what’s happened has left me feeling straight-up angry. Anger is not an emotion that I am used to. I’ve been clinically depressed for most of my life, and depression is essentially anger turned inwards. Instead of getting angry at anyone else, I just blamed myself. I’m now mentally healthy enough that I’m experiencing anger being directed outwards at the people who deserve it, and quite frankly, I haven’t the faintest idea of what to do with 26 years of anger bubbling to the surface. I’ve let more of that anger and frustration seep into my online persona than I should have, and for that I am sorry. It’s led to some inappropriate outbursts towards people who didn’t deserve more than a few stern words. I believe that may be why things happened the way they did.

Let me be clear: I have given this community 110%. I’ve put countless hours into moderating, blogging, and participating here. Between work, school, and the rest of my life, I’ve put in time that I don’t have. I’ve put in time when I shouldn’t. I took my job seriously and tried to build a community that I - that we - could be proud of. Shit, we’re 80,000 strong (wait, we broke 90,000? When did that happen?!) and we built this together. I haven’t had much time lately, and I haven’t had internet access at home, so a lot of that has been me attempting to moderate on Alien Blue, which doesn’t work so well. I wish to god I’d finished the Oppression Olympics for you guys and I’m so sorry about that. But despite all that, you know what? I’ve done a good job. I built a spinoff subreddit, I helped tie together the sister subs, and I wish I’d had more time to do all that I had planned for you guys. I’ve given you all that I could possibly give. I’ve put so, so much into this community, and I believe in you, and I wanted to make this a great place.

Part of the huge changes I’ve been making in my life is to get rid of toxic people. I deserve to be treated like an adult, to be told the truth, to be able to say my piece when problems arise and be given an opportunity to resolve problems amicably. I don’t deserve to be kicked out of a community I helped build and have been an active participant in. That isn’t what I’m about, and let’s be real, that’s not what TiA is about, either. Unfortunately, this means I will not only be off the moderation team, but I will no longer be participating in TiA or TiAD.

TiA, I’m so, so sorry to leave you. I love you guys. You’re the best. This was not my choice and I wish things were different.

My blog, I Don’t Need Feminism, will be around for the time being. If you enjoy my style, that’s the best way to keep tabs on me. If you’re in Lounge, I’m still a member - go check out my skydiving pictures! Most important, /r/TiAGoneWild is still here and going strong. I promise you will get many dirty updates this weekend. I owe you redhead pictures and the boys will be featuring as well.

It’s been fun, TiA, but it’s time to move on. If I know who you are and you want to stay in touch, please PM me your Skype so we can continue intoxicated discussions of life, the universe, and everything.

All my love,

Miss_Anthropyy