Hi, the credo safe, sane and consensual refers to, safe-never putting anyone in danger at any point. Consensual- Everything done extremely within consent of both parties at all times and Sane- everything is done in a safe frame of mind, by which it dosnt refer to mental illness but rather within strict safe environments and free from the effects of drugs/alcohol etc. If you analyze the question to which you a referring, i suggested against what may be a minor in your country ( i assume you must be American the age of consent is 16 in Australia) pursuing actual BDSM relationships until they are old enough to do so safely. If you dont like BDSM thats fine and i understand that its not everyone’s thing, thats ok i respect your opinion and whats more is i also know that nothing i can say will change it. But you should also understand that people like you are the reason that kinky people have to hide their feelings. When people have to hide how they feel it creates an environment where information is scarce and its allows the truly terrible people who are abusers to thrive. If you truly want to stop abuse then dont shame those who practice safely, sanely and consensually, spit your vitriol at those who truly deserve it.