fighting biphobia with sarcasm

why the idea that “hate breeds hate” is toxic, oppressive, and false:

• it blames oppressed groups for the actions of their oppressors. oppression exists because privilege exists and bigotry exists, not because oppressed groups are big ol’ meanies or whatever.
• it shifts the focus of the discussion from that actual problem. sorry if i don’t consider privileged people’s hurt feelings to be the actual problem.
• it is used to discredit the (rightful) anger of oppressed groups
• you are basically saying “well if women/poc/lgbtqiap+ people were nicer we wouldn’t have these problems.” newsflash: it doesn’t actually work like that.
• it’s only ever used to discount the actions of oppressed people. no one ever looks at the american revolution or whatever and goes “wow if those white men were nicer to great britain things would have worked out so much better”
• it’s a form of tone policing, which is shitty all around.
• politely asking people to stop being oppressive has literally never gotten anyone anywhere. please stop acting like it has.