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Sexual Harassment Needs to Stop... (self.TwoXChromosomes)

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[–]puddlebutt12 -97 ポイント-96 ポイント

Dear girl who called me a "faggot" at a party because I didn't want to dance with you at a party, you're an asshole.

IE Sometimes PEOPLE are assholes. Learn to move past your insecurity for it and be strong within yourself.

[–]shinosai 60 ポイント61 ポイント

..... it is certainly rude that someone called you that, but I notice that this girl didn't sexually assault you. Perhaps if you had been sexually assaulted on multiple occasions by women, you might feel the same way about women that the OP does about men. In this case, however, you're just being a dick. Your experience isn't even remotely comparable, yet you attempt to use it to dismiss hers.

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    [–]chinchillazilla54 41 ポイント42 ポイント

    Not trusting strange men because you have had numerous bad experiences with strange men != man-hating. Calm the fuck down.

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      [–]shinosai 30 ポイント31 ポイント

      I had written a response, but apparently your post got deleted. But here it is since you're still here:

      This isn't about how good of an example you can come up with. It's about the fact that you can't and don't understand her experience. And no, street harassment doesn't happen to everyone. Cat calls don't happen to everyone. The only thing you got right is that it happens a lot. So please stop dismissing her experience and telling her to just "learn to move past it." It comes off as really rude and condescending. You don't just "learn to move past" sexual assault and street harassment. You come up with ways to protect yourself.

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        [–]chinchillazilla54 42 ポイント43 ポイント

        Or perhaps you should not come into a safe space for women and tell them how to feel about harassment.

        [–]shinosai 22 ポイント23 ポイント

        Well, to be fair, it's not really a safe space for women atm, what with all the "what about men" posts now. =/

        [–]chinchillazilla54 28 ポイント29 ポイント

        Yeah. "But one time someone called me a name, which makes your experiences invalid! CHECKMATE FEMINISTS!"

        Fucking default shit.

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          [–]evilsaltine 21 ポイント22 ポイント

          It's a place for women to discuss their common experiences. You meant well, but a post from a guy who's never had that experience saying that she needs to just buck up and get over it is not gonna be welcome.

          [–]not_just_amwac 12 ポイント13 ポイント

          You might not be flailing, but you are very much overreacting. Take a deep breath before you post and think about whether or not it meets the rules of the sub.

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            [–]chinchillazilla54 14 ポイント15 ポイント

            Why don't you try being more passive-aggressive and condescending? That'll probably convince us that you're right.

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              [–]Direwolf_13 19 ポイント20 ポイント

              Being insulted is not the same as being assaulted.

              [–]not_just_amwac 16 ポイント17 ポイント

              While true, the OP has predominantly experienced it from MEN in these instances. Men who're showing themselves to be sexist morons.

              Now, sure, there's some parts of it she needs to sort out, like learning to stand up for herself against her mum. But she can't do much about the rest of it.

              These men need to learn to not be complete thundercunts to women. Odds are pretty fucking good that she's not the only one these particular ones have targeted.

              [–]hoodlummer 11 ポイント12 ポイント

              You're missing the point of the entire post. There is no comparing the very scary, very intimadating sexual harrassment experienced by a woman on a train to being insulted by a woman at a party. Imagine being in a room with an NFL linebacker who keeps saying that you look like you have a beautiful asshole. You can't fight him, because you can't win- he weighs twice what you do. You can try to get away. Saying your straight/have a boyfriend/not interested just makes him flex his muscles and tell you that he doesn't care. You start to wonder that if maybe you wore baggy jeans/dressed differently, he would just leave you alone. What are you going to do? Nothing, that's what. You can do nothing about it. People are assholes, you are right. Men can be and are physically intimidating to women (obviously, not all men are; even if its one percent, a large number of women experience sexual harrassment, included with a dose of physical intimidation and unwanted touching.)