Visiting Japanese Schools, Or How To Be A Rock Star in Japan

After people learn that I’ve spent a stretch of time in Japan, they will inevitably ask something along the lines of “What’s the craziest thing you saw over there?” or “What’s the craziest thing that happened to you over there?”. I know exactly what to tell them. We visited a handful of all-girls schools when we studied abroad in Japan, and never before have I felt so much like a rock star. It was surreal.

All-Girls Schools

all-girls-schoolWhen we went to Japan for our 10 week study abroad, we were paired up with students from an all-girls college. Related to this all-girls college was an all-girls middle school and high school. We visited an elementary school as well, but students of both gender attended that one. But at only one of these schools did the students go gaga for me and some of my classmates.

Can you guess which one? I had no idea it would happen before it did – but let’s go through the schools I visited, I’ll tell you about each one, and eventually we’ll get to the place where all the magic happened.

All-Girls College

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The first school we went to was the all-girls college, because that was the school that all our language partners came from, and we spent a lot of time there, not visiting the other schools until later in the program. As a college aged boy, I was pretty excited about being at an all-girls college almost every day for the next ten weeks.

However, it wasn’t really anything out of the ordinary. There weren’t girls fawning over us at every turn, vying for our attention, or throwing themselves at us. It was just like being at any other college really, except there were no guys (besides faculty) there.

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While at the college, we helped out with the English classes, helped our language partners with their English homework, conducted English study tables, and made friends with as many people as possible. It was a really great experience, but I didn’t feel like a famous American superstar. Not yet, anyway.

Mixed Elementary School

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The first school we visited after the all-girls college was a nice little elementary school with both girl and boy students. Now, I’m the youngest person in my family, so I’m not used to dealing with little kids. These little Japanese kids were hilarious though. They all spoke way too fast for me to understand properly, so the day of visiting the elementary school involved more than a decent amount of smiling and nodding.

We played some games, ate a school lunch, ran around outside at recess, and answered some of their questions about America. Most of their questions were simple and ordinary little kid things like “How many friends do you have?” or “What’s your favorite fruit?”.

The kids also seemed to love saying “OH MY GOD” for whatever reason. Confusing, but hilarious.

A bit of the question and answer time was actually pretty awkward though. We were split up into rotating groups, and in these groups a lot of the kids were asking about World War II and the atomic bombs and what we knew about what happened to their country and the reasons behind it and the aftermath.

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I asked my friends if they could remember any more about these questions than I did, but the consensus was that the kids were mostly interested in how that period of time was taught to kids in America and how their version of history differed from what we were taught.

Since the kids were so young, we couldn’t use English to explain the already touchy and difficult subject with them, so trying to articulate our thoughts on this subject was incredibly awkward and uncomfortable. Who would have thought the kids would be so interested in asking us about that? I was all prepared for questions about American cartoons and toys – geez.

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It seems everyone in our group pretty much just gave generalizations about the subject and kind of just awkwardly waited for the teacher to have us move on to the next topic and rotate to safety. I think the awkward stress experienced during this time has prevented us all from remembering it very well. Sorry.

Anyway, no kids really went crazy for us at the elementary school. I did have one kid who became strangely attached to me and kept wanting to give me hugs, but that was it. Nothing too out of the ordinary – kids like to hug things. The best is yet to come.

All-Girls Middle School

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The middle school wasn’t all that exciting either, unfortunately. So much so that I don’t even remember it all that well. Some of the girls got excited about our one red-headed friend and kept calling him “Ron”, like from Harry Potter, but that was about it. They also got kind of excited about one of the girls, but I think they just thought she looked like an anime character.

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If you have red hair in Japan, you are Ron Weasley.

We got put into rotating groups again and talked with the girls in English. They were supposed to talk to us and ask us questions in English and then present what they learned about us (in English again) to the rest of the class.

I mostly got asked whether or not I had a girlfriend and what qualities I looked for in a woman. It was pretty hilarious.

All-Girls High School

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Oh. My. God. I’m famous. I was completely and totally unprepared for this. Word that there were a handful of Americans in the building got around this school fast. I mean, really fast. Before I knew it there were girls peeking their heads out from classrooms trying to make eye contact. If I did so much as look at them, acknowledge them, or God forbid, wave at them – they would instantly go into a smiling and giggling hysteria and disappear back into their classroom.

They tried to keep us out of the hallways between classes for fear of us getting mauled by these teenage Japanese girls, but it inevitably happened a few times. I had girls handing me notecards with their names, phone numbers, and email addresses on them – asking me to please contact them

When we were walking around outside the school being shown the tennis courts, I heard some shouting from one of the upper floors of a building behind me. Looking up, I saw a handful of girls leaning out the window and heard them shouting something. They were shouting “JOHN! JOHN! JOHN!”. What? How do they know my name? Well, guess I better smile and wave at them. *Cue endless fit of giggles*

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At one point I actually got separated from the group of Americans and they were afraid I’d been kidnapped by my admirers. I was dawdling around in one of the classrooms after we were done distracting the students with our presence because a couple girls were talking to me and asking me for my contact information. Somehow I got left behind, and together with a blushing and giggling group of girls, we searched for my classmates.

Eventually we found them, but not before I had a solid 5-10 minutes of girls bombarding me with questions about what kind of girls I like, if I had a girlfriend, and just wanting to know anything and everything about me. To some, this might sound like an ego boost, or like I was just living it up over there, but at the time it was just really, really weird. I didn’t know how I felt about it. At points it was neat and felt pretty cool, but at other times it made me think of how weird things must get for people who are actually famous.

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This is where I experienced my first tea ceremony, mentioned in this previous post here.

And then the icing on the cake was when we left the school and were sent on our way back to our dorm. The students left at the same time we did, and maybe 10-20 of them had to take the same way back that we did, so we had a gigantic group of girls following us on our way back home.

We were asked many times where we were staying, but we never actually told them where our dorm was. Partially just to give them a hard time, but partially because I think all of us were a little paranoid having these “raving fangirls” actually knowing where we sleep at night.

I talked with some of my friends again for their opinion on that wacky experience, and also their experiences with schools at times other than when we all visited together. Here’s what they had to say.

The girls at the high school went nuts and were screaming John’s name from like the 6th floor while we were walking through the courtyard. It was crazy.

Unsurprisingly the all-girls high school went nuts for older foreign boys and were noticeably less excited to meet the foreign girls.

Looking at my experiences from the past couple of years, I think it depends a lot on the schools that you go to. If you go to a very rural school with very shy kids (like one of my schools) students try to avoid you at all costs because they are terrified that you are going to try and talk to them in English. If you go to a school with a lot of outgoing students (like one of my other schools) you feel like a rock star.

Students screaming your name in the hallways, everyone wanting to talk to you and give you a high five whenever they see you, not only at school, but everywhere. I even had a girl came up to me last week and say ‘先生、駅の前に見たよ!’ (Teacher! I saw you at the train station before!). I then said to her ‘Oh really?! When??’ To which she replied ‘あの〜。一年前かなぁ〜!’ (Umm~ Like a year ago~!) And I just stared at her as she ran off giggling with her group of friends. I mean, who holds on to that kind of memory for a year?

But yeah, the never ending ‘カッコイイ!!’s (cool) and ‘イケメン!!’s (cool, good looking guy) never get old either.

Rock Star Status

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So if you want to feel like a rock star, visit a Japanese high school. I dunno how you would go about doing this unless it was part of a school trip or something – you can’t exactly just waltz into a school without looking like a trespasser or a pervert, but if you have the opportunity to visit a Japanese high school, definitely do not pass it up. It is an experience.

One thing I did really wonder though was why it was really only the high school girls that flipped their lids. Why didn’t the college girls or the middle school girls react in the same way? Were they just better at keeping their excitement in check, or were they just not as excited as the high schoolers for whatever reason? Maybe this is the age when boys become “interesting,” but by the time they reach college they’re over it? Perhaps it will forever remain a mystery.

I’ve heard of other stories from other people as well with similar experiences too, so I don’t think it was just us. What about you? Have you heard of or experienced this yourself? What about any girls out there visiting all-boys high schools?

  • Knight

    This is totally cool, I really want to visit a Japanese high school. Must be nice feeling like a rock star hahaha

  • HatsuHazama

    It’s definitely a bit of a risky article you’ve done here, perhaps more in hindsight, but I don’t think it’s unfair particularly. I surprisingly have actually had a similar kinda experience (not full on rockin’ it like you though, much less extreme XD), so it’s not like I can just yell my head of at generalisations, cuz I know at least some is truth. XD

    Admittedly though, for a second or two, my stomach did squirm for a second or two after a particularly nasty generalisation along these lines I heard recently from another comments section out yonder, so I won’t deny it can be annoying to many. For the topic though, I think you’ve handled it pretty well IMO.

  • GoldenTime

    I think it’s pretty interesting that only the high school students reacted like that. I think that this could be turned into a very neat study in a psychological perspective. I’ve noticed that many Asian dramas revolve around high schoolers and love, so maybe that could’ve influenced them to react that way because of their drama culture. I wonder if it’s like that in China or Korea too, maybe that’ll be a topic to explore in the future. Regardless, I’m glad you had that rockstar experience and thanks for sharing your thoughts =D

  • John

    That is really interesting – I never though about that and the potential connection to Asian high school dramas.

  • Alya Amirah

    Maybe you are cute like a rock star! LOL (>__<).

  • 古戸ヱリカ

    Since you were too lazy to do so, I’ve found you the perfect image. It’s colourful, which matches your sexiness, and it has teeth, just like a real Westerner.

  • MantisPrincess

    My elementary school aged host brother liked to say “OH MY GOD” over and over too…

  • John

    I think they like to say it just because it’s a common English expression of exasperation. No idea why they pick that one instead of all the other options there are, haha. Still hilarious though.

  • The Fool

    Though I’m commenting on Marumarsu’s I would find it more appropriate to discuss this whole argument (including SamuraiAvenger and the cheeky dude who decided to call himself SA の先生).

    First allow me to dawn a robe of hypocrisy, considering that any elucidations on the internet are often semantical “pissing-contests”, I would highly doubt that we would be dissecting each other’s idiosyncrasies anywhere else, but here we are…

    To Marumarsu: abstraction is quite a powerful tool, we often ascertain, emotional or otherwise, information through non-empirical facets; generalizations are bound to occur when discussing visceral interactions with an external world. As an unenlightened human being, I have never comprehended nor understood “pure logic” (a-priori irony considering what we just discussed), there are bound to be different interpretations in the human experience (after all, look how intricate John’s simple story has become to us expositors).

    SA の先生 starting comments are humorous, but any attempt to make light of the situation alongside revealing another inquisitors eccentricity is invariably going to fall flat; I still commend the attempt at showing that we are all bound by our own subjective “truths”.

    And with that we reach the raison d’être that SamuraiAvenger confabulate: calling John Colonial-occupationist/ imperialist, etc; I would agree that some of the Tofugu post have been less language oriented recently, and quite depression concerning the inability to integrate in Japanese society as a foreigner (after-all that is what most of us are hoping to do, or at least make an enjoyable trip out of Japan without looking foolish or missing key-elements of a culture), yet I would argue that John is simply being human, professing an experience in which he was the center of attention (one which was both aggrandizing and strange). Colonialism would infer him somehow reaping a reward which was taken against the will of the “natives” but this is untrue, he was being complemented to death by giddy schoolgirls, nothing more or less (<-generalization).

    Allow me to generalize once more: empirical perception or otherwise, puts us in a peculiar position: the internal consciousness interacts with an external world and the self is reasonably the center of it, we report thing we feel and when an external world focuses on us, the self is bound to notice, John was being a tad egocentric,sure, but until we all reach enlightenment so too are the rest of us.

  • Wes

    I’m living in Osaka for a year and attending a high school as an exchange student. I have almost the same experience as you did everyday except to a lower degree. I think this May be because everyone sees me everyday. There are the giggles and whisperings, but after three months at my high school, they have declined somewhat. If I walk past a large group of high school students from a different school, every head turns and there are giggles. The boys even whisper! None of it is condescending, however. There is always a smile on everyone’s face! I’ve found the best way to deal with this odd amount of attention is I just smile or make a goofy face.

    It was great reading your post!

  • ZXNova

    I know Loco had made a similar article on his website. Basically his point is that the reason why you’re so popular is because you’re exotic. Similar situation happens in many other places, not just Japan. If you’re an unusually exotic person in America, similar thing would be happening to you too.

  • Reverie

    My husband’s last day at school after three years of teaching at his school in Chiba, he received two proposals and one “Let’s have an affair!” The last one took him by surprise and he said, “I’m married.” Her response was “It’s ok, you. Me. Your wife!” It was said in a very cute manner. Pretty sure she was joking, or meant it differently of course.

    From the perspective as a girl: My students were all very friendly, they would wave and then scream and giggle with excitement, and after a few rounds would come in to say hello. They always had fun and interesting things to say! Some shy students would write notes and draw pictures, which I still have. And we often took pictures together. The boys were less likely to go 「きゃ〜!」of course but sometimes would disrupt class with a boisterous request of “Let’s go to the coffee shop, right after school!” or “Let’s go on a date!” Mostly to be funny and a little disruptive, at first I was startled, but it was just their way of being funny and friendly and breaking the ice. Possibly the girls on the 10 week exchange had a different experience because they were with a passle of guys, or maybe just because they weren’t alone in general… If I was walking with my husband no one would approach me, although sometimes him (he has a kind face) but without him people seemed to find me much more approachable.

  • Reverie

    I think you did a good job describing this experience.

  • http://zoomingjapan.com/ zoomingjapan

    I don’t have to “visit” any schools. I’m a teacher here in Japan – and have been for the past 6 years.

    However, I’m female, so things are a little different for me. I do have a lot of male co-workers, though.

    I’ve written about the “superstar phenomenon” in my blog (and it’s not only about school but about life in Japan in general for most foreigners): http://zoomingjapan.com/life-in-japan/treated-like-a-star/

    It’s fairly normal that teenage girls react that way. Most of the time they’ll tell you, you look like [enter famous actor].
    In terms of foreign women, they might not freak out as much, but throw a lot of “Beautiful”s and “Kawaii”s at you.

  • Julien

    Actually, my wife & I both work in two different Japanese high schools each. Both of mine are mixed genders while one of her’s is all girls (maybe only 20 boys) and the other is all boys (maybe 4 girls – a very famous soccer school in Japan). Any ways, the rockstar status is a very real phenomenon. I think I’m actually more famous at my wife’s mainly girls school than I am at either of mine, but it happens at my schools as well. It gets really uncomfortable really fast. After four years of working here, I still haven’t adjusted to it…

  • Aiki

    I don’t how you got that at all. Did you actually read the whole article? I’d be interested in knowing if English is your native language, as I believe your comprehension of the article was simply poor. You misunderstand. The point wasn’t to tell people how to get teenage girls, in fact he said he was a bit freaked out by that. He was explaining a weird, unique experience, that he didn’t expect to happen. He was also showing the difference between the reactions of the different schools. And wondering why the reactions were completely different between girls who only differed in a couple years of age. He never said if you want to have underage sex with a lot of Japanese teenagers go to an all girl high school, or even implied it. He simply stated that if you want to experience a unique perspective, that very rarely happens in normal life, this is the situation where it may happen. Comparing it to a rock star or movie star is simply giving a comparison to the unique experience that is easy for people to relate to, as it doesn’t otherwise happen normally.

  • Shelby J

    John, oh my god, the JK girls went crazy over you and Hunter. Didn’t they ask you or Hunter if you’ve ever eaten a Japanese girl?

    And thanks for the reminder about the “Oh My God” kids. 懐かしすぎるううう

    Also if you were talking about Lauren, they probably liked her because she’s tall and had short hair (like you said, she looks like an anime character).

  • Sexy Westerner

    Reveal your WK name!

  • orangedude

    Stop being so modest John, you know you get mobbed by hysterical fangirls wherever you are! XD

  • Sarah Dworken

    I did a five-week Japanese language study at the very same university in 2005, and let me tell you, there were many issues with the innumerable Charisma Men going through that school via my home university and other Western universities. First of all, Shoin University is a bit famous (infamous) in the Kansai area for having the girls who rank highest on the fashionable/kawaii scale. It’s known for being a training ground for future airline cabin attendants and office ladies, along with a slathering of other pretty lady/husband-baiting professions in Japanese society. I’m surprised you ONLY got your language partner(s?) asking you to be your girlfriend, when from what I witnessed, half the men in our group brought home a new girly every other night, some of whom we had seen earlier that day cooing at them from the gate to the university.

    Second, because of Shoin’s reputation, the women attending that university tend to set high, catty standards for themselves and others. As an 19-year-old wearing glasses and only having one (ONE? for shame) pair of high heels, my experience was different, to say the least. Most of us horrendously not-kawaii foreign women (read: all of us) spent our social time balking at the pettiness of our menfolk, while at the same time seething with jealousy. It’s simply not fun to have a fellow scholar of letters and languages – as the Shoin students claimed to be – glare at you in disappointment that you were randomly selected as their language partner, when they could have had Charisma Man (Average Joe back in the States) teaching them how to say dirty things in English (you know, for their airline cabin attendant job). I was lucky enough to have a language partner who was genuinely interested in learning English and making a new friend, but nearly all of my sisters were left in the dust.

    I’ve been in Japan now long term for five and a half years, and it’s essentially the same everywhere, even in my home city of Tokyo: white men are the top of the food chain in terms of desirability. If you want to continue studying Japanese, or plan on living in Japan at any time of your life, you will just have to accept that grim fact. You will be loved deeply by many Japanese girls, women, dogs, cats, and possibly crows. I’m so deeply, deeply sorry.

  • Not Apraxas

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  • MrsSpooky

    I have the same experience Monica! I went to a Catholic school too, and the Jewish student got a lot of attention too. Not sure he was that wild about it, but he was pretty popular so didn’t seem to question it. xD t grew up in communities that were all white. When I got into middle school we had 2 black students in some of our classes. They were rock stars! Everyone wanted to be their friend and hang around with them. They were good kids for one thing, and outgoing and fun (which helped a lot), but they were Different. I think it’s the difference that attracts some people like the high school girls John encountered. If they don’t see a lot of people like you (or if they NEVER see people like you), the friendlier and more outgoing students will want to get your attention. I don’t think this is uniquely Japanese, because I’ve seen it here in the States.

    One of the comments said you were “exotic” and I think that hit the nail on the head, especially if you are cute, nice, and friendly (which you seem to be).

  • MrsSpooky

    Thank you, Em. You said it much better (and much more nicely) than I could have. I’m amazed at the interpretations some people are coming up with about what is basically an interesting article someone wrote about his experiences visiting Japanese all girl schools. They’re ascribing all these attitudes to John when all they’re really doing is exposing their own attitudes. It’s not pretty.

  • 古戸ヱリカ

    Never!

  • Mars

    Why go all the way across the Earth for this? This is my experience with American highschool girls. ;) HEYOOOOOOOO

  • Mescale

    I don’t understand, is John a rockstar, why did he expect to be treated like a rockstar, why was he treated like a Rockstar in the high school? was he the only one? What was special about him?

    p.s. I didn’t read the article.

    I know Americans are totally ignorant of how they appear to outsiders, but there is a stereotype that americans are all ego maniacs who want to be loved by everyone, and generally that they go to Japan to get laid.

    From what I breifly skimmed over in the article it seems like it was written in a style which would tend to reinforce those stereotypes.

    I see my kouhai have noted this in the comments already.

    I think the article could have been written in a better way to get across the points of the article, and the headline could have been a lot less suggestive to the above.

  • Knight

    It was great, I enjoyed it, and I never felt offended, mad or whatever.

  • John

    Thanks! Glad to hear it.

  • Clawsomega

    I’m not in high school anymore, but if you’re that slim black haired guy in the selfie with another girl, I would totally scream over you with all the other girls too. ///< If you add the exotic factor (it's cool to have a foreign boyfriend), I'm not surprised they went crazy. I'd scream and wave and give you my contact too if everyone else was doing it. It's a rare chance they'd see good looking foreign guys near their age around in Japan I think, a chance not to be missed. Even as a good friend would be fine, but of course, girlfriend is the queen's seat. Everyone would be so jealous.

    When Japanese guy students saw me during an exchange trip to my country, my boyfriend told me they said I was cute. XD Japanese guys are a lot more shy than the girls I think, all the way down to their roundabout vague way of proposing, so only foreign guys would get this experience (and they have to be good-looking and possess some bit of charisma, which I do think you have – you even good-naturedly took selfies and hugged them, I'm slightly jelly. Did anyone tell you you look like Colin Morgan when you smile?).