Depression in Asian Society

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In my opinion, many Asians are raised in an environment that can cause depression.  Many have parents who are too busy with life or work to listen.  Many strict parents will order around their kids, and don’t allow for free communication. Many traditional minded parents raise their kids to achieve, rather than allow their children to discover their own path that they enjoy.  This creates a disconnect between who they are, and who they are expected to be.  This oppression can cause a lot of stress and unhappiness since you’re essentially not allowed to be yourself.  Depending on your personality and mental characteristics, this could be traumatic for some.

Asians of the older generation don’t talk about depression.  They probably don’t even think it’s a real condition.  They believe that you can power through negative emotions with positive thinking, will power, or even God.  The idea of mental illness embarrasses parents, and they won’t acknowledge it since it would make you somehow a failure, and therefore THEY would be failures as parents.  People are afraid to seek help because if they do, people might find out and label them as ‘Crazy’ or ‘Unstable’.  So, they pretend that everything is fine.

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Oakland college shooting: Gunman described as loner, loser, D.A. says

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L.O.S.E.R. !!!


A LOSER? That’s a little premature, isn’t it? That does not explain why he did this. I don’t think it’s cool that the authorities are doing exactly the same thing that the others have done to him (bully) at this point. It does not help or explain the tragedy. Ha, you might as well just write him off as being CRAZY or NUTS.
Read below (from the Los Angeles Times):

Oakland college shooting: Gunman described as loner, loser, D.A. says

Officials from the Alameda County district attorney’s office said Wednesday that they will wait to decide whether to seek the death penalty for mass-murder suspect One Goh until after a preliminary hearing.
But in the interim, Dist. Atty. Nancy E. O’Malley used sharp language to describe the alleged gunman’s “murder rampage” as unprecedented in Alameda County.

At a press conference that followed Goh’s first appearance in court, authorities said that the suspect went to Oikos University armed with a .45-caliber weapon and four fully loaded magazines of ammunition. Prosecutors allege Goh, 43, was responsible for shooting and killing seven people on campus Monday morning and critically injuring three more.

O’Malley told reporters Wednesday that Goh committed “crimes of such enormity and brutality that our community, our country and citizens around the world are left reeling.”

Law enforcement officials also used the conference to adjust their description of Goh’s alleged motive. A day after Police Chief Howard Jordan said Goh had been expelled from Oikos this year “for behavioral problems, anger management,” O’Malley clarified that Goh left the school voluntarily in November.

“He was not expelled,” she said. “He was not asked to leave.”

The district attorney also added to the emerging portrait of Goh.

“The information we have received from some of the individuals who knew him at the school was that he was a loner and what some might call a loser, but he didn’t exhibit any behavior that would have alerted anyone” that he could commit mass murder, O’Malley said.

Jordan also clarified Wednesday that his officers continue to search for the murder weapon “along the route” of the 7200 block of Doolittle Drive near the Martin Luther King Jr. Regional Shoreline Center.
Asked why procuring the gun was so important, O’Malley said, “It’s one more piece of solid evidence to present to the jury, but it’s clear that he is the person and the only person responsible for what happened.”
Police say Goh arrived at the campus in an industrial section of east Oakland on Monday morning and ordered the students inside to line up against the wall. When some refused, he opened fire, officials said. He had time during the rampage, authorities believe, to reload and continue shooting.

Six women and one man were killed. They ranged in age from 21 to 53 and were from South Korea, Nigeria, Nepal and the Philippines, largely immigrant students learning English, nursing, theology and Asian medicine.
“We don’t believe that any of the victims were the ones that teased him,” Jordan said. “We believed he stopped [shooting] because people were able to use the phone. He could have heard people calling 911.”
Goh was detained a few hours later by Alameda police officers near a Safeway supermarket.

Meanwhile, police believe the target of the shooting was nursing director Ellen Cervellon because she had denied his request for a full tuition refund, the Associated Press reported. Police said that Goh began shooting inside a classroom after being informed that Cervellon wasn’t present.

“In talking to several of the students and faculty who were there, I think he was looking for me. I have that weight on my shoulders and I don’t know what to do with it,” Cervellon told the AP. “Every single one of those students were going to be an excellent, excellent nurse. They’re in my heart and they always will be.”

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Report: Oikos University shootings suspect ‘can’t deal with women’

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And in the end...the love you take is equal to the love you make


I had a feeling that this guy was at least a slight hater of women. And it may turn out that I was at least partially right. It’s been reported that the guy had a few key things happen to him that were probably quite traumatic or stressful. His mother and brother died recently. He was in debt. He owed money to the IRS – even had his assets held as a lien by them. He was pursuing to be a nurse but he got expelled, crushing his goals. He was ridiculed and disrespected by his classmates (other Asians) on his poor English skills. He felt isolated, alone, and disenfranchised. He was probably under tremendous level of stress, felt this was the last resort to do something with his life (pursue nursing), and suddenly felt everything was lost when he got expelled. His goals and dreams were dashed.

In addition, he was lonely, without a woman. He probably never or hardly dated, had few friends, both men and women. He probably felt rejected by women throughout most of his life. He felt misunderstood, misrepresented, and stereotyped in some ways. I think over time, his anger and resentment towards women grew. He became bitter and eventually became hostile towards women.

I don’t think it’s a big coincidence that all the victims were women. I know most of the students at the school were women but still. The main woman he was initially targeting was a woman.

I am not a psychologist nor am I a FBI profiler. I just think I can understand a fraction of what he was thinking in terms of women and how he viewed them.

I think it’s too easy to write him and other similar killers off as “nuts” or “crazy”. I think there’s seriously something going on in our society that’s really a factor – Just in life, media, life’s pressures, stress, etc. There is no mental affliction or disorder that they can be diagnosed with that causes them to go out, shoot, and kill. Granted, some of them were depressed and just wanted to end it all.

But I think some of these killers had unrelenting rage. And this accumulated over time. Millions of people suffer from depression but they are not inclined to go shoot people. The ones that do have a brewing anger, rage…wrath.

Virginia tech shooter was severely depressed and had other mental disorders. But these factors coupled with rage/anger/resentment/bitterness probably pushed him over the edge and decided to not only plan the shooting in great detail, but to go through with it.

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A case of Asian on Asian crime?

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Dead bodies of the victims after the shooting rampage by a lone Korean man


I was quite surprised to learn yesterday on the radio as I was driving home that the shooter at the small religious college in Oakland, CA was a 40-something year old Korean man. This instantly reminded me of the Virginia Tech massacre, also by a Korean man, who shot and killed 37 people.

The first thought that came to my mind after learning the shooter was Korean was…why. And now, it seems the main motive behind the killing rampage was getting revenge. He was getting revenge because he was bullied by his classmates. It was then that it was no big surprise there considering how so many shootings in the U.S. these days are due to victims of intense bullying by their peers.

The next thing that came to mind, after learning the Christian college was a Korean-run school, was why would other Asians bully other Asians? The shooter stated that other students and the school’s administration officials made fun of him because of his poor English skills. Most of the students were Asian! WTF?

Yes, this guy’s heinous acts are inexcusable. That’s like Asian on Asian crime, no? I am an Asian American and I have never ever maliciously made fun of another Asian person’s accent. I have never bullied anyone for this. To me, this is considered a hate crime.

Another thing that I read was that all the women he shot and killed were women. This made me wonder if it was mostly women who made fun of him and that is why he targeted primarily or exclusively women. The news reported that the shooter was a large man, older (mid 40’s), odd, socially awkward, and a recluse. It made it seem like he was a “loser” with the ladies. I don’t know. But it made me question if the guy was a misogynist, borne out of the constant bullying by other women. Who knows.

Either way, I’m not defending the guy. But I was just pondering what exactly was going through his mind and why. It’s complicated obviously and clearly it was premeditated – he wanted bloodshed. To keep things very simple, he was in a rage…wrath.

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The student who killed seven in a gun rampage at a US university was upset about being teased

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ESPN uses racial epithet in headline of Jeremy Lin Story: “Chink in the Armor”

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"ESPN/Disney...I'm so disappointed in you"


So ever since the Jeremy Lin sensation has taken over the media (about 2 weeks ago), there has been a string of incidents that have not been exactly positive or favorable in the Asian American community. Let’s recap:

• Jason Whitlock comment on twitter implying Jeremy Lin has a 2 inch penis because he is…Asian. Haha, so funny, right? We love you Mr. Whitlock (a.k.a. BBC)

• Floyd Mayweather’s twitter comment about how Jeremy Lin is only being recognized because he’s Asian and that black players do what he does every night but don’t get recognition. True, I agree, but he’s missing the points. It’s not just about Lin’s incredible numbers/stats. It’s about an Asian player competing and going up against successfully against players in a sport that is dominated by black athletes. And there is much more than just this.

• Fortune Cookie…need I say more? (See previous post for this)

And now…I’ve got one more to add and the guilty party this time is none other than ESPN!

Here is what happened:

SPN uses racial epithet in headline of Jeremy Lin Story

ESPN has been the biggest champion of New York Knicks star Jeremy Lin’s rise during the team’s seven-game winning streak. But they have potentially undone it all with a horribly racist headline that appeared on tablets, iphones, Androids and other mobile devices following the Knicks’ loss to the Hornets. It may have appeared online as well, but Outsports was only able to see it on ESPN’s mobile sites late Friday night.
Lin had nine turnovers in the game and inspired the headline, “Chink in the Armor” (screen capture after the jump). The term is akin to any other racist epithet you can imagine. Gay athlete Rod Silvestre, who is of Filipino descent and plays in the New York Gay Football League, was understandably outraged by the headline. He posted on Facebook:

Is ESPN serious with their lead story on their web page?

How do you go from celebrating one of the best underdog stories, to now talking about Jeremy Lin for all the wrong reasons. ESPN should be embarrassed.

We want to give ESPN the benefit of the doubt here, but it’s impossible to believe the person who wrote that headline didn’t know exactly what they were writing. Especially since ESPN previously came under fire for using the same headline…to describe a USA basketball game in China.

Update, Feb. 18, 12:10AMPT: ESPN has changed the headline to “All good things….” We have reached out to them for comment.!

Oh, but don’t get all your panties in a bunch. ESPN, or should I say Disney, has made a swift apology.

ESPN sorry for offensive headline on Lin story:

NEW YORK (AP) — ESPN has apologized for using a racial slur in a headline for a story on Knicks sensation Jeremy Lin.

ESPN ran the headline “Chink in the Armor” after Lin had nine turnovers in New York’s loss to the New Orleans Hornets on Friday night on its mobile website that could be seen on phones and tablet computers.

Lin is the NBA’s first American-born player of Chinese or Taiwanese descent. He has captivated sports fans with unexpected dominance on the court that sparked a seven-game winning streak.

ESPN says in a statement Saturday it removed the headline 35 minutes after it was posted. The cable network says it is “conducting a complete review of our cross-platform editorial procedures and are determining appropriate disciplinary action to ensure this does not happen again. We regret and apologize for this mistake.”

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Jeremy Lin…relegated to a punchline in between a cracked fortune cookie

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"I'M RICH BEEYOTCH!"

It’s shocking to me how ignorant major media conglomerates can be when it comes to issues like this. It’s a big company with many employees and with its own checks and balances. Projects, ideas, procedures all have to get approved.
So how can this happen?

It’s so interesting to me how when an Asian figure gets some media coverage, like the way Jeremy Lin has been getting, the small to big prejudices and bigotry and stereotypes all come out of the woodwork. Thing is, sadly, they were already there. It just came out because of the so-called Jeremy Lin media sensation.

Yeah, yeah, I get that almost all Chinese restaurants in the U.S. give customers fortune cookies. But the reality is that they don’t do this at restaurants in China. I guess most average everyday people do not know this.
But huge media companies during the highly publicized and watched NBA game on TV?

Chinaman please.

And again, back to our previous post regarding Lin…Is this really that funny?

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Asian guys have small penis…HAHAHAHAHA! So funny! LOL! Hilarious! LMAO! So Witty! HeHe! This shit never gets old!

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"The bane of our existence ya'll....BBC"

Everybody, this is Jason Whitlock, sportswriter for FOX Sports. He’s known for being very outspoken, gruff, and all around controversial. I’ve always been a small fan because he usually went against the grain of most ass-kissing sportswriters or sports “journalists”. In the previous post I wrote about and celebrated Jeremy Lin, the Asian basketball sensation of the New York Knicks – he’s been lighting it up, schooling everyone, and putting on a show.
But then Whitlock goes and tweets this garbage:

whitlock Asian guys have small penis...HAHAHAHAHA! So funny! LOL! Hilarious! LMAO! So Witty! HeHe! This shit never gets old!

"Asian Man = small penis...HAHA! LOL! LMAO! So very funny!"

Can anyone tell me why people think this is so funny? The whole joke about Asian men having small penises. I don’t get it. It’s been overplayed and the joke has run its course but it keeps popping up in movies, TV, media, etc. Yeah, I get it that jokes based on racial and ethnic stereotypes are grounds for humor and joking around but why does this particular joke (Asian men have small penis) always draws laughs and hysterical reactions from various people? IT IS NOT THAT FUNNY!!!

How many times have I heard that black women have big bubble butts? How many times have I heard that Jewish women have big boobs? How many times have I heard that Asian girls have bodies like a 15 year old boy? Not nearly as often as I’ve heard all those jokes related to Asian men having small penises. Why is that? Whether it’s a myth, a gross generalization, or fact…why is it persistently brought up as a punch line? Why do so many people (of all colors/race) find this so damn funny? I myself find it offensive and disrespectful and incredibly aggravating.

To recap, Jason Whitlock tweeted his “joke”. The AAJA (Asian American Journalists Association) demanded an apology via an email to Whitlock. Whitlock responded with a bunch of lame excuses and “apologized”. This was all exposed on Facebook. And then all the comments started flooding in from random FB users.

Click here for the apology and comments.

What‘s even more annoying is how some people just say to get over it or Asians are being overly sensitive or it’s just a joke. To me, they are basically saying “just take it up the ass and stop whining”.

We are talking about how Jeremy Lin, an Asian American, who went to Harvard and never got drafted, who is now an NBA baller and is kicking ass on the court and we are talking about how exciting that is for the sports, Asian community, and entertainment. Why does a guy like Jason Whitlock have to make a comment like that? And his comment or joke or whatever had nothing to do with basketball. What was the point in even tweeting that? Why is he fixated on Jeremy Lin’s penis…whether it’s tiny, small, medium, big, or whatever? Who cares? Why can’t he and others just let Jeremy Lin be recognized for his recent achievements on the basketball court?

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"Nothing more classy and attractive than Asian girls throwing up gang signs when in the presence of a black man"

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