Julien Hug's Funeral: Suicide Note Revealed
The troubled 'Bachelorette' contestant who committed suicide last week, Julien Hug, was remembered on Friday by approximately 500 guests at a memorial in Rancho Santa Fe, Calif., where his family is in the restaurant business.
Hug's live-in girlfriend, Jennifer Bell, spoke to mourners, according to
RadarOnline, about her heartbreak in the aftermath of losing her "perfect" partner.
"I will miss every night where we would lie in bed and before he went to sleep he would whisper in my ear and say I love you." She added that he "loathed" being asked about his 2009 stint on ABC's 'The Bachelorette,' during which he competed for the affections of Jillian Harris.
The grieving parents, Denise and Bertrand Hug, made the bold choice to share the contents of their son's suicide note with those in attendance.
As
Radar reports, the handwritten message Hug left his parents was filled with love, gratitude, apologies and an explanation about the pain of his depression.
"This will hurt you," he wrote. "I am so sorry to do this to you. I feel only love for you mom and dad. But I'm terribly sad everyday. I hurt. People will think I took the easy way out. I say I took the smart way out...."
In closing, he wrote, "Tell everyone I love them. Make sure everyone knows that I just want to be in peace. I love everyone. I'm so sorry to have to do this. It's the only way I know how. Julien."
Photos of Hug through the years, which were shared at the funeral, can be seen
here.
The 35-year-old shot himself in a remote California region about 90 miles east of Los Angeles; his body was found earlier this month.
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RIP
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The grieving parents, Denise and Bertrand Hug, made the bold choice to share the contents of their son's suicide note with those in attendance.I love this , So does My boyfriend .he is almost 11year older than me .i met him via age'lessmate.c'om a nice place for seeking age le ss love.which gives you a chance to make your life better and open opportunities for you to meet the attractive young girls and treat you like a king. Maybe you wanna check it out or tell your friends..
I am so sorry for the loved ones left behind. He is in peace but your hurt is just beginning. Best wishes.
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I understand depression, I only wish those suffering with it could see beyond today and now. Please please if you have a loved one suffering with depression get medical and professional help NOW.
Peace. Suicide is now considered peace in the afterlife. Someone needs to look in the Bible for those answers. Not peace
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What an unusual name.Sorry the guy died.
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This is tragic. However, I am sure his parents would have rather he went to an institution, than this. A family and friends want the person around. Think Of What You Are Doing To Your Family And Friends. The Pain You Leave Behind That Can Last A Lifetime. DON'T DO IT.
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People on these posts talk about "getting medical help" when someone is suicidal. Yet they don't
mention that the drugs given, are the very thing that can put someone over the edge. Antidepressants, mood elevators, etc., could be considered "getting high". When someone gets
high, what follows is a scrape them off the ground low. This "bipolar" stuff is more a theory, than
an actual diagnosis. Doctors will not tell you this, because they fall for the same things the general
public does. There is no magic pill for this life.
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Thank you for your suggestions on what someone suffering from depression and suicidal ideation can do to get help.
Oh wait...I didn't see anything. Perhaps you forgot to enlighten us.
No one here specifically mentioned psychotropics or antidepressants, and not all of them do the harm you seem to feel they do; furthermore, close monitoring of their use by both professionals (medical & mental health) and families can provide a safety net should problems arise.
The field of neurology and mental health are still-developing sciences and admittedly imperfect, but advances are being made everyday to those willing to at least read up on them.
I've seen no one suggest a "magic pill for this life", but trying something is better than cynically throwing your hands up and doing nothing, or taking an "it's all in your head/just tough it out" stance than some folks promote.
And so it goes...
He probably did the right thing....
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SUICIDE IS NOT THE SOLUTION. IT IS SELFISH AND WRONG. SORRY, BUT THE TRUTH IS THE TRUTH AND THIS GUY WAS SELFISH TO DO WHAT HE DID TO HIMSELF, AND THOSE HE SAYS HE LOVED. SEEK HELP IF DEPRESSED, BUT BY ALL MEANS DO NOT KILL YOURSELF AS IT IS REALLY A SELFISH THING TO DO. I HAVE BEEN DEPRESSED MANY TIMES IN MY LIFE AND IT IS EASY TO THINK ABOUT THAT BUT THE THOUGHTS YOU THINK ARE WRONG. SO YOU GET HELP BEFORE YOU DO SOMETHING SO STUPID AS TAKING YOUR OWN LIFE.
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Yes, Linda, it is a selfish act.
So are most of the actions many of us take every day.
I almost lost a family member to suicide. I would have been heartbroken if the action had been successful.
The fact is, however, that person has a right to do what they feel is the correct action for him/her.
It is pretty selfish to expect that person to maintain that level of pain and hopelessness in order to spare others as well.
L,,, Thank you for that.
Some people like to give advice on things they obviously know nothing about. As far as the timing, to say anything about any more negative than it already is, pitiful. If someone cant say something nice, or supportive at this time, just dont say anything at all. People have lost their son, brother, and friend. And some people want to place blame, or say they should have done, or said this or that.
RIP Julien
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