More young people seeing the charms of ‘friends with benefits’
Growing numbers of young Japanese are starting to adopt the attitude of “what’s a bonk between buddies” and shagging away with no strings attached, according to Spa! (2/20).
“Sex is like an extension of having fun together. Going to a love hotel is just one choice you can make, like the decision to head off to a karaoke bar,” Aoi Natsume, 20, tells Spa! “I’ve got friends that I go to when I want sex, but I also hang out with them for other reasons, too. But when I don’t feel like it, I’ll tell them I’m not interested and there’re no problems.”
University student Chika Goto also takes a lighthearted look at lays.
“They’re not going to be very good friends if they end the relationship after a single bonk, are they?” the 19-year-old says.
Goto arrived in Tokyo from rustic Wakayama last year. She found herself invited out to matchmaking parties where she would be plied with booze then dragged off to a nearby love hotel for a quick and nasty session. Now, in her second year at college, she’s found a steady group of five friends, who serve her in a number of different ways.
“We have sex, but we’re not going to become lovers. They’re good guys and I don’t want to lose them,” she says. “My sex friends are all better than just friends, but not quite close enough to me to be lovers. There’s still a little bit of love between us, though. Just enough to make us different from plain old friends.”
Goto continues: “I want to meet lots of great guys, have lots of great sex and build up lots of experience so I become a great woman.”
Megumi Matsuda also enjoys having shags with sidekicks.
“It’s not like I’d do it with just anybody. It has to at least be a guy I’d have no problem having fun with if it were just the two of us. I can’t just have a one-night stand, either. It’s scary. You don’t know what diseases he might have,” Matsuda says, before adding: “But if you’re alone with a guy and he doesn’t proposition you, it doesn’t say a lot about your charms does it? You completely lose bragging rights.”
Matsuda says that her liberal libido is all about liberation.
“I’m not one of those weakling types,” the 20-year-old tells Spa! “Who’ll fall in love after having sex with somebody only once.”
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