You must remember this, a kiss is just not a kiss
By Ryann Connell
November 11, 2004
If a man really wants to display how deeply he feels for a woman, the best way
is to pucker, Japan's foremost expert on the science behind love tells Nonno.
A single smooch should be all it takes for a woman to know she has met the man
who'll change her destiny, the women's glossy claims.
"Kisses are actions that are all about exposing your weak points to somebody
else. Like all animals, humans' weak points are all the orifices in their body
-- the mouth, the nose, even the anus. Holes become the entrances for which
bacteria can enter the body and can be a life-threatening weakness. Added to
that, when you do something in an exaggerated manner, movement of the nerves
concentrates around the body's orifices," says Naruhito Fujita, head of Love
Science, a literal laboratory of love where studies are carried out to discover
the science at work behind our passions. "Our mouths are the places where we
eat and drink, so stimulating the mouth is a stimulation very close to
satisfying instinctive desires. That's why kisses feel so pleasurable."
Fujita says that kisses can literally make a woman feel as though she has
fallen under an enchantment.
"By presenting somebody else your mouth with a kiss, thus displaying your weak
points, you're giving off a sign that you are also submitting your body to
them. When women kiss, they also have long-term ideas such as marriage and
pregnancy in mind, so compared to men they place a lot more worth on the
action," Fujita, author of such books as "The Science of Sex," tells Nonno.
"Expectations and dreams can make women smitten by somebody they've never even
met just by imagining kissing them in a romantic setting. If they actually ever
kiss somebody in settings they have dreamed of, they get the feeling that the
person they have kissed will actually change their destiny."
Men, on the other hand, don't get nearly as much out of a kiss as women. In
fact, rather than pucker, they're generally looking to do something
considerably more advanced, even if it does rhyme.
"Only women can feel as though they've been cast under a spell after kissing.
For men, the kiss is simply one process leading to sex. They take the kiss as a
sign of the woman's arousal, kiss her deeper and begin aiming for sex," the
doctor says.
Fujita says the biggest problem facing women looking for life-changing pecks
will be whether her partner is thinking along the same lines.
"You often hear talk of 'good kissers' and 'bad kissers,' but actually kissing
has got absolutely nothing to do with technique. A kiss that goes along with
what a woman is feeling is a good kiss.
Suddenly shoving the tongue down the throat when a woman doesn't want that is
not likely to make the kiss a life-changing one, nor one that will leave a
woman feeling her destiny will be shaped by the kisser, or enchanted," Fujita
tells Nonno. "First, there should be an embrace. As you hold each other
strongly and extract warmth from each other's body temperature, the cheeks
should draw closer together before finally a small peck is placed on either the
cheek or forehead. Things should become gradually more passionate with each
date. If a guy kisses like that, it will be proof that the man truly regards
the woman as important."
Copyright 1999-2004, Mainchi Daily. All rights reserved. Ryann
Connell is a Staff Writer and Senoir Desk Editor for the Mainchi Daily News. No
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